I need to know I'm doing the best thing for this situation

[zeeeep1234]

About 3 years ago, I started working with this girl. At first, we were just talking at work, mostly about work issues and small talk. About a year into the situation, the conversation started changing and we became really flirty. After a while, it became really intense and we talked all day inside and outside of work. Naturally, seeing as she was simply the most beautiful girl i've ever seen, I asked her out. She said she was busy but we would definitely go out when she found some time. This song and dance happened for about a year; I would ask her out and she would claim she was busy yet she would continue to text and call me constantly. I started to give up after a while but one night, she called me crying asking if I would come over because she was dealing with a personal issue and didn't trust anyone as much as she trusted me. Long story short, we ended up having sex. This was about a year ago exactly. It was amazing and felt right and I was finally feeling as though things might happen with her and I. I gave it a couple of weeks until I asked her out again. The same thing as before happened, she was too busy to see me. I tried a couple more times until finally, about 2 months later, she asked ME out. It was the best date I've ever been on, and I could tell she felt the same way. She was smiling the whole time and doing the classic light touching of my knee or my hand. At the end of the night, I kissed her and that was it (I didn't try for more because I wanted to show her it wasn't about sex for me). Again, I waited a couple of weeks and asked her out again. Again, she kept saying she was too busy but would continue to talk to me non stop. This time, she was telling me things I'm convinced she's never told anyone. Deep personal things and starting saying how I was the most amazing person she ever met and how no one else could make her as happy as I could. Yet, she couldn't bring herself to go out with me. She even stopped the "I'm too busy" act and just starting saying "she just felt like relaxing instead." About 2 months ago, I left the job we were both at. We talked as much as ever still, all day and all night. Finally, about a week ago, I asked her out again and she gave me a list of things she had to do for the next 8 weeks. That was my last straw. I just told her I was sick of feeling like an idiot. She asked what I meant and I haven't responded even a week later. I got one text from her the next day saying she hoped I was having a good day, but that is it.

Seeing as how I am completely in love with this girl, I need to know me walking away is the right thing to do. I know I'm half an idiot for waiting 3 years for this girl, but every time I try and walk away, she admits she can sense it and I can see right through her pulling me back in. Yet, I go back. It almost seems like she wants me around but doesn't want me. I don't understand how someone can admit how right you are for them yet never give you a chance to prove that to be true. Does anyone have advice as to my next move? I at least need some reinforcement that walking away is the right thing to do.

[Agnus]

There are two types of males: Alpha and Beta. Alpha rules and f**ks the girls. Beta is just another male girl-friend to talk with. You sound like Beta. The next move you should do is to familiarize yourself with what I said. I won't give you the link because someone from admins said links were not allowed on this side. Just type in Google "What is a Beta Male? – To Be Alpha" and you are good to go.

[4 ratties]

3 years holy crap. She doesn't want you as a boyfriend and lover, she just wants you to give her attention and it sounds like you've been giving her every ounce of it. Time to cut the cord and find a mature woman to have a relationship with instead of this clingy, but yet scared of commitment chick.