horrible break up

[bluenote99]

just have to hope that as time goes by i find the situation easier to deal with, we have discussed things at length and i am aware that shes doing this for the money to pay her debts and that pleasure won't be her agenda, men who see escorts are seldom the richard gere type from pretty woman i suspect much more likely to be fat,old and ugly, what i need to hang on to is that she wants to be with me not because i give her money but because she feels something for me and finds happiness in the time we spend together, if this was not the case she wouldn't have called asking so desperately for me to give things a try, small consolation i know but its what i've got

[BackUpOrGetStng]

She wants to date you, while she ****s "fat,old and ugly" men..and you're agreeing to it. I'm convinced, it doesn't get any better than this.

[bluenote99]

with me for the right reasons at least and with them for the wrong ones, not saying for a minute i condone what shes doing may not even be able to cope with it but i love her deeply so have to try so at least i can say i gave it my best shot

[smackie9]

Sorry but there needs to be a limitation to what is tolerable. You are kidding yourself that you will be able to handle this...there is such a thing called a "deal breaker" and I would say this is one of them. It's just your heart that is being unrealistic. Talking to her is not going to make you feel better, it's only going to torment you even further. You need to give you and her some distance, before you make any decisions.

[bluenote99]

Sorry but there needs to be a limitation to what is tolerable. You are kidding yourself that you will be able to handle this...there is such a thing called a "deal breaker" and I would say this is one of them. It's just your heart that is being unrealistic. Talking to her is not going to make you feel better, it's only going to torment you even further. You need to give you and her some distance, before you make any decisions.

thankyou for your much more understanding less vitriolic response i do admit i've found it extremely difficult to handle i imagine 99.9% of men would, am just hoping by trying i can maybe limit the damage she does to herself with this course of action and who knows i must admit to the hope that having done it a while she may decide its not the life for her, shes hating it so far and has admitted as much but says she needs to do it to pay her way, just want to be there for her through all her troubles wasn't this messed up even over my divorce

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Being a whore is a lot like graduating from college. You can graduate and move on, but as an alumni it's really easy to get back in for grad school, and you're an alumni for life. Does this chick have kids to support, or does she just like the constant flow of new dick?

Vitriol, comedy. Tomato(to-may-to), tomato(to-mah-to).

[bluenote99]

Being a whore is a lot like graduating from college. You can graduate and move on, but as an alumni it's really easy to get back in for grad school, and you're an alumni for life. Does this chick have kids to support, or does she just like the constant flow of new dick?

Vitriol, comedy. Tomato(to-may-to), tomato(to-mah-to).

yeah personally don't find the style of comedy where you get kicks from someone else's misery too amusing, each to their own on that, nope no kids she's fairly young, has been very irresponsible with money though and deeply in debt, a debt i should point out that i've offered many times to help out with but shes always had too much integrity to accept, hence paying her own way, people are seldom black or white just shades in between

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I respect your misery, but that's not what I find amusing. I find it amusing that you're willing to go along with such an extreme situation and have deluded yourself into thinking you're okay with it. It's so pathetic, that it has actually come full circle into being comical.

I have a question. Let's say she does manage to **** her way out of debt..then what? She still hasn't learned how to be responsible. All she'll have learned is that she can **** her way out debt.

[bluenote99]

I respect your misery, but that's not what I find amusing. I find it amusing that you're willing to go along with such an extreme situation and have deluded yourself into thinking you're okay with it. It's so pathetic, that it has actually come full circle into being comical.

I have a question. Let's say she does manage to **** her way out of debt..then what? She still hasn't learned how to be responsible. All she'll have learned is that she can **** her way out debt.

ok thats more reasonable, shes suffered some serious misery as payment for getting into debt, is still suffering it now in fact by having to do something she hates so as life lessons go...... as for the either i can only agree that it's an extreme situation, i doubt its unique though there are many women in the world who turn to this to make money/get themselves out of trouble and they can't all be single, additionally there are many unconventional relationships about particularly nowadays, for example there are people living with multiple partners in the same house, people living with a transgender partner, even people married to their cars/pets/god knows what else its how i deal with my own particular difficulties that i'm struggling with

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Yeah..you're dealing with your difficulties by being a complete, cuckold, bitch. No wonder you're struggling with it.

[dolomite68]

Having watched this post develop and have added some comments myself...I can see both sides of the argument although I don't necessarily agree with how some of the comments have been made I can see what everybody is trying to say.....and as difficult as it is to say no to her latest request to try again, before you say yes (assuming you haven't already) take a step back and think what you would advise if it wasn't you...what would you tell your best friend to do? it may help....

[bluenote99]

ah back to your old self then, thought the last one was a bit too reasonable, must be weird seeing the world completely in shades of black/white, right/wrong - funny but the most dangerous people from history have all had that complete sense of moral certainty

[bluenote99]

Having watched this post develop and have added some comments myself...I can see both sides of the argument although I don't necessarily agree with how some of the comments have been made I can see what everybody is trying to say.....and as difficult as it is to say no to her latest request to try again, before you say yes (assuming you haven't already) take a step back and think what you would advise if it wasn't you...what would you tell your best friend to do? it may help....

i would of course tell him that he needs to get himself free of a horrible situation, this did in fact happen years ago when a good friend of mine was being played for a fool by a woman he was crazy over, he did love her though so followed his own path ,they split eventually, i'm pretty sure i won't be able to cope with my own situation but feel i've got to try, to put it in perspective theres no other woman i've ever been involved with that i'd even contemplate putting up with this for and that includes my ex wife/mother of my kids thats how much i think of this girl

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I don't see where moral certainty comes into play. I never said she's wrong for her choice. Please point out anything from any post in this thread where I've judged anyone's behavior as right or wrong. I've sold drugs, robbed people, vandalized property, all sorts of things most people consider morally reprehensible. Doesn't make your girl any less of a whore.

[bluenote99]

hmm you seem pretty certain i'm a complete mug for trying to make things work, i'm going in with my eyes open and i'll be the one suffering the consequences