What is wrong with me??!

[as9876311]

Okay so I started dating this guy named "Colin" back in Jan. We dated until April and then broke up. We had a great sex life. I had only been with 2 other guys and never really has he desire for sex like I did with Colin. He was so new and exciting and we had an active sex life. Like I mentioned, we broke up in April. Got back together around July. We have now been living with each other for a month and our sex life is awful. We currently haven't had sex in almost 2 wks. Before that, it was 3 wks! I've tried talking to him about this and he says that everything is great he just doesn't want a relationship based soley on sex. That's understandable. But we are young. Me 22, him 25 and newly living together. I just feel we should be having sex more often than not. He does work 60+ hours a week so I know he is tired sometimes. And he still tells me how beautiful I am so he's still attracted.... So what's the issue?

[pcmaster]

I think 3 years matters a lot. You might have diferent needs now. Answering to your question you are horny slut and should go to church every week instead of getting stuffed. Think more about spiritual things. Sex shouldnt be ussual thing but special ocasional event with candles and so. If you cant get a quantity then at least go for quality. Anyway do you go out together or hes spending time with friends? He could easly been seeing other girls.

[bluenote99]

as simple as it sounds the fact he is working so many hours may be all there is to it feeling tired and stressed all the time doesn't lead to sexy thoughts in my experience and also with you not having had that many relationships it is natural for the frequency of sex to decrease after the initial honeymoon period although not to the degree you're saying

[as9876311]

I think 3 years matters a lot. You might have diferent needs now. Answering to your question you are horny slut and should go to church every week instead of getting stuffed. Think more about spiritual things. Sex shouldnt be ussual thing but special ocasional event with candles and so. If you cant get a quantity then at least go for quality. Anyway do you go out together or hes spending time with friends? He could easly been seeing other girls.

Horny slut? You obviously skipped over the part that mentions the fact that I've only been with 3 guys in my 22 years. We do out together just him and I and we also go out with groups of our friends. Occasionally he'll go to a friends to help with a vehicle but not very often given that he works so much. When he's not at work, he's with me about 90% of the time. Call me naive, but I don't believe he is seeing other girls.

[pcmaster]

Well then he is satisfied with his work already and no need to cheat on job. After 3 years(at his age) you will understand than its possible to have sex less often. ANyway guy became comfortable and lazy in relationship. Will you leave if he continues this way? I was just joking about slut.

[as9876311]

Well then he is satisfied with his work already and no need to cheat on job. After 3 years(at his age) you will understand than its possible to have sex less often. ANyway guy became comfortable and lazy in relationship. Will you leave if he continues this way? I was just joking about slut.

I wouldn't leave based solely on this. I do believe that that intimate connection is pretty vital for a relationship though. I mean if the roles were reversed I believe it would be a big deal. It's nice to feel wanted.

[Boisdevie]

If you're not happy then let the guy know that if things don't change then you're out of there. Ok he works long hours yada yada yada. He's young and should be full of energy. The 'honey I'm tired' line is just a pathetic excuse.