He is distant with me but yet doesn't want me to date other guys? I am so confused!

[Metalhead05]

Ben and I have been friends and we are close friends. He called and texted me a lot in the beginning but I recently noticed that his calls and texts started to decrease, and he was becoming more distant and I think it's because I rejected him so much when he would want to go out with me, and he did try to kiss me and such. I was in a bad state and I wasn't ready for a boyfriend, I was going through emotional turmoil and I just really needed a friend. Well now that I am getting better I do want to date again and I do want to date Ben, but he was becoming distant and he told me he liked another girl and he was telling me basically how much he liked her, so I kinda said to myself "move on" but it is so hard cause I do like Ben.

Well Ben was out with my friend Mike and some other friends, and Mike was saying that he wanted to hook me up with Nate, and he said that Ben got all jealous and weird. Ben said "She is way too hot for Nate" "She is way too good for him" "I will never speak to her again if they date!" Mike said that his anger and jealousy was very noticeable. But it's confusing to me cause he just expressed to me that he liked another girl so why does it matter if I were to go out with Nate? Also Ben never complimented me to my face that is the first compliment I ever heard out of his mouth about me! lol! And when Ben did ask me out and I said yes to go out with him recently he would back out. Everytime he asked me out he backed out so that showed me he had no interest in me anymore. He was making me feel like I was a thing in the past, so he doesn't want me to date guys, but yet he is distant with me. What do you guys think? This is confusing! Please Answer!!! Thank you!

[Boisdevie]

The guy sounds like a dick. He asks you out on a date and then backs off yet he doesn't like the idea of you dating other people. Tell him to get stuffed.

[Wakeup]

Forget Ben.

[pcmaster]

Propose Ben.

[DalM0m]

Have you actually asked Ben out on a date? Try it. He's probably gun shy becuase you rejected him in the past.

[Metalhead05]

LOL! Guys!!! Cmon I am serious! I need serious answers! I am just confused and I am wondering if guys will do this? It's confusing cause he is distant then says he likes another girl then says basically that he doesn't want me to date Nate. I just don't know if it's extreme jealousy??? Well thanks anyways peeps!!

[Metalhead05]

Have you actually asked Ben out on a date? Try it. He's probably gun shy becuase you rejected him in the past.

Hi DalM0m! Thanks for answering! Yeah I kinda did one time. Me and my friend went to a wedding and it sucked lol, so we left early and it was a Saturday, and nobody was available so I text Ben and here was the convo.

Me: Hey what bar will serve me? That wedding sucked it had no alcohol haha
Ben: ANy bar
Ben: Well you would have to go with me
Me: Ok I'll go with you
Me: Me and my friend need to drink lol
(He didn't respond till like 15 mins later)
Ben: Ok i'm down
(Me and my friend got lost so I had no signal, so I stupidly replied like 40 mins later cause that is when I got a freakin signal)
Me: Ok where you at?
Ben: Mcconellsville
Ben: Just come drink on my porch so I don't have to use my legs haha
Ben: Ginger's Pub literally lol
Me: Are you at Ginger's Pub???

Then he didn't reply and Ginger's Pub is a bar so he doesn't really live there lol, I know I heard him say he lived behind Ginger's Pub. SO that's what I mean he'll back out and act like he is not interested but then he said that about me, so I am confused! But tell me what you think! Thanks again!

[basilandthyme]

Ok, so he asked you out and you rejected him. But you're in a better head-space now and would like to date him. Have you told Ben this?

If not, tell him how you feel. If he's still interested, he will start dating you. If he's not interested anymore, you should move on. But this pfaffing around trying to guess how he's feeling is just a waste of time.

[4 ratties]

If you do really want to date him, don't play any games, just talk to him. It could turn into a nice romantic night

[DalM0m]

Metalhead -- you didn't ask him on a date. You asked him to hang out, which is vastly different. What you need to do in order to properly ask him out is to plan something that cannot be confused with hanging out. Try: Hey Ben, I've been thinking. I'd like to give us having a relationship a real shot. Would you please go to dinner with me on Saturday at Chez Romance, my treat?

[Wakeup]

Hi DalM0m! Thanks for answering! Yeah I kinda did one time. Me and my friend went to a wedding and it sucked lol, so we left early and it was a Saturday, and nobody was available so I text Ben and here was the convo.

Me: Hey what bar will serve me? That wedding sucked it had no alcohol haha
Ben: ANy bar
Ben: Well you would have to go with me
Me: Ok I'll go with you
Me: Me and my friend need to drink lol
(He didn't respond till like 15 mins later)
Ben: Ok i'm down
(Me and my friend got lost so I had no signal, so I stupidly replied like 40 mins later cause that is when I got a freakin signal)
Me: Ok where you at?
Ben: Mcconellsville
Ben: Just come drink on my porch so I don't have to use my legs haha
Ben: Ginger's Pub literally lolMe: Are you at Ginger's Pub???

Then he didn't reply and Ginger's Pub is a bar so he doesn't really live there lol, I know I heard him say he lived behind Ginger's Pub. SO that's what I mean he'll back out and act like he is not interested but then he said that about me, so I am confused! But tell me what you think! Thanks again!

He told you where he was and then instead of saying "okay see you there" you asked another freaking question. Pick up the GD phone and TALK to someone you are not understanding. If they don't answer then NEXT the douche and find someone else.

Dial the phone and speak to him when you ask him out on a date. If you've got the gurl ballzzzz to even do such a thing. If you don't, then start from scratch and find someone new who you can understand when he tells you where he is... see bolded portion of your quoted conversation with him.

[Metalhead05]

He told you where he was and then instead of saying "okay see you there" you asked another freaking question. Pick up the GD phone and TALK to someone you are not understanding. If they don't answer then NEXT the douche and find someone else.

Dial the phone and speak to him when you ask him out on a date. If you've got the gurl ballzzzz to even do such a thing. If you don't, then start from scratch and find someone new who you can understand when he tells you where he is... see bolded portion of your quoted conversation with him.

LOL! Honestly though Ginger's Pub is a weird bar it's only open till 10 and it was like 11pm when he said that. So I knew he wasn't there. That is why I was confused when he said Ginger's pub literally! lol! Cause it was closed at the point and I didn't know where he was getting at, and as you can see it was a cluster **** of a conversation haha! Cause he says for me to meet him at his house cause he says "just come drink on my porch so I don't have to use my legs haha" then he says Ginger's pub, so I was confused as to what he wanted me to do? But you are right, he is a douche, and I honestly am wasting time on him. Thank you for your response it made me laugh a little haha!