Quick Q. Need advice ASAP plz: Who Should Come First?

[Fjortis]

I'm a 21 year old girl. I met a guy on a dating site a few weeks ago, so far we talked on the phone and on facebook.
We both live in big cities about 2 hours apart.
He invites me to come to his city this weekend.
He'd pay for the hotel and he has an apartment of his own.
Plus he says there is some event going on in his city we could go to.
But I don't really drive and he does.
Should I go first or should he come first
( me being a girl too after all ).
What do you think?

[3mK]

You should've had him come to your city first. See if you would be comfortable around him in a setting that's comfortable to you. If your first meeting goes over well then, maybe, you should consider having him take you to his city for an event or whatever else is going on.

[surfhb2]

But the event he wants to take you to is in his city.

Why don't you drive and why aren't you dating locally is the question I ask

[surfhb2]

But the event he wants to take you to is in his city. . What does you being a girl have to do with anything in this particular situation?

Why don't you drive and why aren't you dating locally is the question I ask

[Starnique]

He should come see you first. You know nothing about him besides what he's told you. Better safe then sorry. Once you get to know him then you can go visit him.

[michelle23]

I wouldnt go anywhere alone with him-especially not a hotel. Maybe arrange to meet half way for coffee at a local mall. Bring a few friends with you and let them go shopping while you meet him. Then go home with your friends. You met this guy on the internet. You need to be safe!

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[Fjortis]

Thanks everyone for the responses so far, but how do I tell him to come to my city without sounding like I'm afraid of him or something?

[smiling100]

You are a women.

A guy should respect that.

If he is genuine he will want to make you feel safe/comfortable.

Be honest with him

[Starnique]

It's really that simple ^^^^^^

[Boisdevie]

What a complete waste of time. Even IF you get on with him you live two hours apart - why not date a local guy - too scared?

[MrsDarcy]

I agree with Starnique and smiling100. It's not a good idea to meet someone all by yourself and especially in a hotel, whom you've only known online. He should understand that if he is a gentleman. Propose to meet at a public place, a place that's convenient for you. If he really cares about you, he will do it. If he refuses to, that's a red flag.

[michelle23]

I also think its a red flag he wants to pay for your hotel :O

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[Boisdevie]

In reply to the question I always thought a gentleman would do everything in his power to make sure that the lady came first.

[Dr-Love]

Definitely have him come to you, as the "gentleman" im surprised he wanted you to come 2 hours away instead of coming to you. But simply tell him you'd be more comfortable being closer to home and if he doesn't understand/respect that then find someone else

[surfhb2]

Although he should respect your wishes, there's a reason he wants you to come to him.....there's an event going on in his city. He wants you to go and is paying for your stay. I mean you're not meeting him in a seedy, empty hotel room, you've already talked several times.

I don't understand why you're apprehensive or think he's not being a gentleman? Let's get out of the Victorian age a little girls....Jeesh . Are you not comfy with the idea or does it come down to the fact that you a woman?

Anyway.....with you being 21 with no car this won't last anyway.