FIRST DATE summary

[Kromat83]

A summary of how i met (let's call her Jojo) ..

It was Dec.21st, where i was suppose to go to the movies to see Hobbit, but another friend
called me to head to a Polish Christmas dinner .... so i cancelled the movie plans and went downtown.

Talked to a few girls, but wasn't too interested, until i decided to talk to her ... we talked for a long 1-2 hours.
She gave some in sight as she is looking for work, out of town.

I got her facebook and number ... and called her a few days after, and didn't like how she might possibly move to Calgary, if the right job came along, which is probably considering, which sucks because i really do like her personality .... since it was around Christmas and soon would be New Years, the first date would have to wait.

ANYWAYS ... First Date happened Sunday, January 5th, as i suggested Salsa Dancing, and she agreed to it.
She arrived at the social (i paid her entrance before she arrived), and we took the beginner class together ... i've had dance experience for a while, but i wanted her to experience one of my passions, even though she is quite new to it.

We got a bunch of physical contact through the Merengue, Kizomba, Bachata, and we practiced a bunch of Salsa that was taught during the lessons, and i gave her some tips to make it easier.

We stayed there for almost 3 hours, and she was about to go, but i thought that it would be nice to go somewhere to talk and went to the local bar, where it was decided that we'd share the Pasta, and i got a Caesar Salad.

Got into a deep conversation about her education, and how she had co-op aboard, we shared our various interests we enjoyed, what music we like nd movies we've seen ... i added that i lost all this weight, and how i am organizing for some meetup groups, which i didn't know she was part of

I just started Rock Climbing, but she's really into it and we talked about that ... how she did a few marathons and how i'm going to compete in the SPARTAN RACE and how i'd have to change my diet.

sheThere was probably more to add, but i'll leave it at that, and after we finished our food, she went to the washroom and i asked for the bill and paid the bill + tip before she arrived, so we can be on our way faster.

I asked her, if i could drive her home and she mentioned how it isn't in my direction, but i said "I wouldn't have asked, if i didn't want too" .....

Another great conversation in the car, and we arrived at her door, and we hugged for the night
( i mentioned how we should do this again, and i suggested Rocking, and she was up for that )

ARRANGiNG DATE #2 .... so, i called her Tuesday Afternoon (i received a text last night about maybe doing a hike instead of the Rock Climbing), I thanked her for the fun filled Sunday, and what has she been up too ... she
looked up a meetup for a hike that would last 3 hours, and wanted to know if i'd be up for that ... explaining the type of terrain there is and how it isn't the easy trail ... but i am all for that, going for something interesting to see and experience.
We discussed about probably doing a Hike first, then Rock Climbing afterwards (she has shoes and harness, i'll be renting) ... and is all up all up for that, and i think it'll be an awesome day ....

P.S. I am thinking about buying flowers, chocolates, and a card to read later to bring inside her house, when i arrive at her door, holding them behind my back.

i will go for the holding hands during the hike, and give her a tap on the ass during rock climbing, whenever she completes a climb, or is ready to go up.

As we get heading back to her home, i'll get out of the car with her and say goodbye by the door, and as she is ready to go in, after probably a hug, i'll mention that she forgot something, and if she'd let me find it ... and i'd make her leave the direction of her door a few paces, and say that, "i think found it", turning her body with face meeting my lips into a kiss from me finally, because i really do feel something for her ...

**** after keeping in my attraction all this time... i think it'll be the right time to do it at that moment and i have nothing to lose after showing her the type of person i am, and sharing in these various moments together.

Whatever happens after that, will be up to her, but i am hoping for a good outcome, and we can continue.

[basilandthyme]

Sounds good Kromat.

But the flowers, chocolates and card at the one time is too much, too soon. Flowers OR chocolates would be ok, but save the card till Valentines Day. Or at least until you know she loves you.

[pcmaster]

Nice Kromat its seems like you are thinking a lot and dreaming like a little girl. Good luck with dreams come true !

[Boisdevie]

Jeez man chill out and forget the chocolates etc etc. You're getting your knickers in a twist thinking about what you're gonna do on date - have you got it all planned out?>
20.00hours. Meet her at door......
21.00 hours. Try to kiss her.

Just go with the flow. Normally by the second date you should really be in the sack doing some horizontal dancing.

[searock]

Jeez man chill out and forget the chocolates etc etc. You're getting your knickers in a twist thinking about what you're gonna do on date - have you got it all planned out?>
20.00hours. Meet her at door......
21.00 hours. Try to kiss her.

Just go with the flow.

I agree, don't plan every little thing... it should be spontaneous.

I also agree with basilandthyme, don't give her a card - I suggest you just bring her flowers, she sounds like she would appreciate them more than chocolates... plus, I see chocolates as something more intimate, somehow. It's only your second date after all.

Normally by the second date you should really be in the sack doing some horizontal dancing.

I don't agree, in that while it might be "normal" for a certain couple of persons, it might not be normal for another couple of persons. As long as both persons are content and happy, there is nothing to worry about.

[pcmaster]

Kromat is getting love struck and getting a little crazy. Still flowers sounds better. I remember in my second date I wanted to bring girl a toilet paper. Good that I didnt lol.
You know Kromat actually a single rose and a little kiss on a cheek at the start of the date actually should be very enought.
With setting a goal you put pressure on yourself so cant relax until its acomplished also things dont always go as they planed. But when you do what you wanted you feel free and relaxed so rest of the date should go easy.

[Kromat83]

Thanks, I thought about it And a bunch of flowers isn't the way to go, maybe 1 or 2 like you suggested is better.
Sometimes I get carried away, good thing I chatted about it, so I can take it easy and just go with the flow.

[Starnique]

Yeah, just do the flowers. Anything more will be too much. If a guy did all that for me, I would think he's sweet but he's trying way too hard. I'd rather the guy get me a regular candy bar and a soda or something lol, then again, I'm simple. Box of chocolates is more like Valentines day.. Just take it easy. You are acting love struck. Relax =)

[pcmaster]

Good rule of thumb is not spending any money that matters to you before have sex with the girl. Like spend 5$ or so but not anything more than you can afford trow out. While it works well paying for the first date also realise that you are good prize on your own. Basicaly its good to go steady and keep is sustainable so girl dont get disapointed cause they might think who you are from begining is how it will be all the time.

[Kromat83]

Sunday, January 12th

I woke up around 6am, to make sure i had everything like Snow Pants, T-Shirt and shorts.

I left around 7:45pm, and told her i'd be a little late and thought it would be nice, if i bought her roses.

I saw a set of 3, and had to buy that, because i knew exactly what i would say.


I drove to her house, and put the roses behind me, and she opened the door and was surprised.
I explained what each rose meant :

1st - was for the time we first met, and for that conversation we had, and showed me how you respect people around you and look to lend a hand.

2nd - for the 1st date, where we went dancing and got close, and went out for dinner, where my interest grew further.

3rd - for the 2nd date, that is about to happen, and not knowing what to expect.

We drove 45 minutes to our destination, and arrived 30 minutes early and just waited and talked.

DEVIL'S PUNCH BOWL - Stoney Creek
There were 10 of us that showed up and the routes were pretty narrow, even getting to one section with vertical icy stairs.

Jojo borrowed me one of her hiking poles, which i appreciated ... and when the path got wider, it was an opportunity to hold her hand with my glove (it was cold), which we clasped for a while, until another tough section came, and she even initiated, which i thought was a good sign .... she needed a break sitting on a bench and i sat beside her, and said that i could catch up with the group, but this was our date, and i didn't want to leave her side.

We were close to the Cross and the location of the Devil Punch Bowl, where the falls were in the middle between two sheets of ice .. we took multiple pictures there, and the rest of the pack waited for us, as we both enjoyed the moment.

There was an icy path near the tracks, which would have time, which we took, and she had a fun ride on her butt with the snow pants, and i tapped it to see if both cheeks were okay.

As the weather warmed up, we arrived at an open field and noticed that one of her hands, didn't have a glove on, so i took mine off, and held her hand, to provide some heat, and showing her that i am there for her.

Both of us were in the trails for over 3 hours, and it was enough, as we needed the energy for later.

She started to get hungry, and she noticed a coffee shop, but we didn't stop there, but at a nearest Tim Hortons, which she appreciated that i stopped to grab something to eat, and she won a ticket with a free coffee, and suggested i could have it.
I found out that she isn't much of a coffee or tea person, and doesn't like eating the buns with meat on them.

As we ended, i kept opening the doors out of the shop and into the car.

The rock climbing gym, was 20 minutes away, and when we arrived, it was a giant warehouse ... and when i looked inside, the walls were so high, about 45 feet.

We changed into our gear, filled out a waiver and questionnaire ... i took a peak at her birthday section, and noticed that she was just 1 year younger, which was great, since i never asked her age, but now i know mentality

Both of us had to take a belay test, making sure the other person is safe, with the right form of tighten the rope .. both of us were okay and we were ready to climb ... i was the last to finish, so we went to another wall, and before she was about to climb, i tapped her on the ass, haha .... she last her focus, because she barely was able to climb, but it slowly went away, and she made it with ease ..... it was really nice to experience this hobby of hers together.

She even complimented me, on how smooth i go up the walls, when i've only climbed 4 times thus far, and she has been for 5+ months, so i even asked her how my climbing is, and what i need to improve .... but she suggested i talked to the other climbers of the meetup group with more experience ...

We were both pretty exhausted from using a bunch of energy from the previous hike, so we called it quits after 2 hours, and it is a gym, i'll definitely visit again.

It was a drive back to her house, and talked about my view in a specific girlfriend i'd like to have and to compromise and she explained a little bit about her side as well, and it helped me to see what she's been threw and what to expect.
More talk about Rock Climbing, and how i told her that i plan to visit a gym she used to go regularly, and hasn't seen certain people for a while, so i suggested that maybe we should go together, which is exactly what is happening, and will see tomorrow if she if also up for a steady pace hike this Saturday in the city, before we climb.

We drove to her area, and we walked together to the door, and it seemed like one of her friends showed up on her driveway, so Jojo escorted her to go inside, and we had our moment to say our goodnight, and it started with a hug, then put a kiss on the cheek and then finally landed one on the lips and it was well received.

P.S. What an amazing day yesterday was, and it just makes me happy, because i date for over 10 months, and found someone by accident, because he suggested we check out a Polish Christmas Dinner, and i didn't click with some of the girls, but this one was different, and she suggested that we could hang out, and i am glad we did.

Now i have to wait a few more days, and can't wait to see her again, because of how happy i am around her.
This is a great learning experience, and how to handle situations if i need to look again, because we are still dating, and nothing is guaranteed, until you put enough time, and you are both still happy.

I am ready to move on, if that moment happens, and would thank her for sharing these moments with me.

[pcmaster]

What? 2nd date and still no sex?

Just joking Kromrat. Good that you go with your own pace. Dance according with the music you hear inside. Dont forget to always put yourself first. Take care.

[pcmaster]

Kromat is my friend and I actually care about this. Its everyones free will to post, read and give advice.

[Kromat83]

Next time it'll be a shorter post, just wanted to share as much detail,
as to how i went about certain situations, and how the response was.

[asdfg789]

@Kromat - wow. Sounds like u r really into her. Good luck !

[Kromat83]

I am into her, but from talking to her last night, she still has sights on Calgary for work , and I don't blame her, since she might get better opportunities for her field there.

I liked the experience we have had together, but knew it is going to end soon and I will have to find someone else, which really sucks, because there is chemistry between us, and I wont be able to see what comes out of it.