We planned to stay good friends and we got on well.
What in the name of god is wrong with you people that want to keep old discarded lovers in your life? It is the worst thing you could be doing to yourself. It will stagnate you from moving on. No new lover will take kindly to you still being embroiled with your past lover. You are displaying codependent tendancies when you can not let go of someone that you need to let go of.
Neither of you were meant to be LIFEpartners so why would you want to remain that in the demoted state of friend? That does nothing for your healing, your cleansing of them from your heart and mind and subsequently you being able to see the goodness of other men that may want to pursue you. So, in future don't bother entertaining the idea of keeping someone that would demote you to just friend, as a friend. Ugh.
This guy couldn't bond with you and that is why he sought out other woman. Find someone that DOESN'T HAVE TO SUPPLEMENT you in order to be happy. Learn to not want anything to do with people that don't really like you but are to weak to actually let you go.
I took it really hard because I was genuinely in love with him.
You should have left him when he told you that he needed other women to fulfil some emotional void. Instead you basically just told him it was okay for him to keep doing it until he left you for one of these women that he needed to supplement you with.
Have more confidence in yourself. Learn to love yourself enough to let someone go that is blatantly telling you that you are not the one he really wants but he'll keep you around until he finds her. You can do better than someone like him.
It takes more then one sided love to make a relationship work, hell it takes more then two people loving one another to make a good relationship and to maintain it. Don't settle for your own feelings anymore. Make sure you're having his as well.
Will my ex ever want me back
Get help for your low self-respect. Anyone with a bit wouldn't want someone like him back. He can't be trusted, he needs to supplement any woman he is with with other woman, he tells woman what they want to hear. He is incapable of truly committing himself fully to one chick. Why can't you see that? When you CAN see that... you'd not want to touch him with a 10 foot pole.
Last edited by Wakeup; 19-01-14 at 07:51 AM.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion