i want to get back together with my ex boyfriend, but how should this work?

[xowinterbabyxo]

I had a boyfriend from October 2008 till April 2010. Anyways, he was my first boyfriend. After we broke up we were still friends. My parents don't know we still talk. Only my youngest sister does. I still went over his house after we broke up but my parents don't know that either. Last I saw him was in October of last year. Today, I went to ask my ex something because I wanted a guys opinion on something. It then turned out we had a long conversation all day and finally he told me he decided to grow his hair out, which I told him " I still have photos of you with long hair from high school". He wanted me to send them to him.

He replies "we were so good together. its a shame that fighting caused us to grow apart" and then he goes after I send a few more "i'm just a bit taken back, just taking it all in there and just remembering those moments"

Then after I told him I still had our very first photo and he wanted me to send it so I did. All he replies is "yeah. I'm going to take a nap" after I asked if he got it. ( I think seeing all these photos made him sad about us not being together)

Now the problem is that my parents don't really like him. My godmother doesn't like him either for her own reasons. ( I met him because he was my godmothers son's former best friend). How would it work getting back with him if my parents dislike him and so does my godmother? I'm so afraid that I will be the subject of hate for a while...

and yes, I know I made posts about another guy but honestly, I can never get my ex out of my mind. I thought I liked this new guy but these days my ex is treating me so sweet.. he basically was the best relationship I ever had, and he admitted that to me too for him ( I was the only girlfriend that lasted as long as it did with him...)

[smackie9]

You have to be honest with him and let him give you an answer.

[xowinterbabyxo]

thanks! I think being honest would work out. I'm going to take my time with him though because we don't talk daily so I want to give him some time after today

[smackie9]

This why you are in this predicament....you keep making excuses to put things off. It's time to make a change or you will never have any kind of success.

[michelle23]

Why don't your family like him? Sometimes you should listen to your family coz they can usually see the red flags a young loved up girl ignores. Why didn't it work out last time? Maybe it would be better to cut all contact with him and start healing. Sometimes two people are just not good together

[xowinterbabyxo]

Honestly, it was a stupid reason why we broke up. We weren't spending enough time together in the last few weeks of our relationship. It was the most stupidest argument we got into that lead into a break up. My mom doesn't like him because he did some stupid things in our relationship but the thing is we always worked them out (except the fight that lead to the breakup and that was 100% stupid on our parts). My godmother, it is for a harsher reason. Her son had cancer and my ex never showed up when he was in the hospital or to the funeral ( although people said they wouldn't allow him in if he showed up). They used to be best friends but eventually stopped being best friends before he got sick with cancer. When they were friends, at one point my godmother almost adopted my ex (he was a foster child). That's why my godmother doesn't like him anymore.

[smackie9]

Well I say that's her deal not yours.

[4 ratties]

not much u can do if your under 18. tough luck kid.

[xowinterbabyxo]

not much u can do if your under 18. tough luck kid.

i'm turning 21

[michelle23]

I still say move forward. I don't believe in going backwards-not unless you have been married 20 years or something.. plus its a lot harder if your family don't approve

[Wakeup]

He sounds like a real charmer... He didn't bother with his best friend when he was dying of cancer. Jesus. I'm with michelle on this one but you won't listen to her so you do what you think is best. Just don't waste your time being friends with ex's you still have feelings for in the future... your story is what happens more times then not. You end up wasting good dating years thinking some dufus has changed just because he got sentimental over some old photos.

If you're going to go ahead with trying to reconcile then get your words formed to him early. This silliness has gone on long enough. Time for you to get with him or get over him and you can't do either if you just continue with the status quo of doing nothing.