Hookers Instead of Girlfriends?

[smackie9]

Yes, nothing like insulting people while you give them advice. It's so positive and healthy! Uplifting and inspiring!

I wasn't insulting I was just pointing out the facts

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We talked for a long time, she does, and I'm seeing her tonight.

Congratz I hope it works out for you. Keep us updated on your success.

[Mattiemae]

Well I hope he agrees!

[smackie9]

Yes, nothing like insulting people while you give them advice. It's so positive and healthy! Uplifting and inspiring!

[Mattiemae]

Not quite! Most of these people come here for advice, not to be bashed because of the circumstances they're in, there is nothing wrong with treating people with decency and respect.

[smackie9]

I didn't bash him I plainly stated he could do better than began basement (as Vashti mentioned) with his income. Oh well he disagreed what ev.

[fearoflove]

That's true fearoflife, but would you want to take someone out on dates just so they can spend your money? Rather just go out with female friends and have sex on the side.

But would those female friends **** you? I don't think so.
I don't understand why you are okay with paying for hookers but not okay with taking a girl out on dates who actually wants a relationship with a wealthy guy.

[JBG]

Congratz I hope it works out for you. Keep us updated

It was amazing. She was lonely, she liked the attention, and she can use the money. She didn't charge much and was grateful when I gave her extra. She asked me to come earlier next week so we can have dinner after. I asked her not to fake an orgasm or any of that, and she responded with some genuine affection. She was fun, friendly and sexy. That fact that she was a normal woman made it really satisfying. Some people might disagree, but I thought it was way better than hiring a cold model to act out a porno.

No you painted yourself in your opening post as lacking those attributes as the reason why you can't get women

I get what you're saying. The end of that first post sounded ugly. I don't treat women like that.

But would those female friends **** you? I don't think so.

Exactly, so why ask them out and make them feel bad about turning me down?

I don't understand why you are okay with paying for hookers but not okay with taking a girl out on dates who actually wants a relationship with a wealthy guy.

Would you want to go out with a cold, calculating person that fakes interest so they can spend your money? I'd rather go out with real friends and have sex on the side. You probably can't imagine thinking like that because you're good-looking enough that guys want to date you.

[KristinFromTx]

I didn't read everyone's responses to your post, but I have my own questions for you.

1. Why do you think you're ugly?
2. Have you ever tried online dating?

If you're that unhappy with your appearance, why not change it? Get a gym membership (great place to meet girls), maybe a minor plastic surgery to fix what you're insecure about? Paying for sex may satisfy your needs temporarily, but don't you long for a deeper connection with someone who is genuinely interested in you for who you are?

Confidence goes a long way, you should try it.

[JBG]

1. Why do you think you're ugly?

I'm 5'6", 5x4" penis, 2/10 face and physically can't exercise much. The average guy is 5'10", 6x5", 5/10 and much stronger. Going to the gym would put all the cards in the hands of the guys I'm competing with. I do hike everyday for health.

2. Have you ever tried online dating?

Yes and it was a complete flop. Most women ruled me out by height or looks. A few agreed to go out and liked me but felt no chemistry. Two said they wanted to just be friends, and actually meant it.

If you're that unhappy with your appearance, why not change it?

I'm already very lean, healthy and hygenic. But what really matters to women is size, strength and looks. Found that out the hard way.

Confidence goes a long way, you should try it.

Think about it. Would you date a guy with a good personality and my physical traits? No, but you bet other women would? And if they all say that? Somehow women don't get this. What's worse, if women find out you can't get a girl, most will actually lose respect for you. Its a way of feeling superior while pretending they aren't superficial.

[KristinFromTx]

I understand it's hard for you, and you say you're being "realistic" but I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. I recently watched a show where a 500+ lb man got a girlfriend, so you can't say that everyone is so vain to go by looks alone. You do seem a little unpersonable, but it's hard to judge someone online. Anyway, I have hope for you and I don't think you should give up. I get it that you're short, but I have dated a man shorter than me, he was 5'4, and the penis issue, you can't really "fix" it but if you find the right woman she will love you no matter what, and there are plenty of toys and other ways to satisfy a lady. I don't believe you're "too ugly" for love, but prove me wrong and post a link to your picture, or send it to me. I'll give you my honest opinion.

[JBG]

Toys sound fun but there's no substitute for being a man and being able to f*** a woman. The size thing really is an issue. I'm 53% of the average volume, so I'm just not large enough to satisfy a woman in normal ways. I asked the one I was with how it honestly felt and she said it was like having two fingers in her, more like masturbation with a friend than sex. She wasn't trying to be mean, so I laughed it off. But wow...

If you don't mind my asking, how "big" was your 5'4" boyfriend? What's a minimum size for you?

I snapped a phone pic. If you send me a PM with your number, I'll send it to you. I took it right after hiking and hadn't shaved, so I thought it might look a little more rugged. I don't think it worked...

The only good thing about me sexually is I can last a really long time, because I have nerve damage that reduces genital sensations.

[michelle23]

If half the men on the jeremy kyle show manage to get a girl then I cannot see why you cant. Maybe drop your standards a little-plenty of insecure, unattractive women out there looking for love too..

[surfhb2]

Yeah....the OPs issue isnt his looks, its the attitude. Sorry but those are just facts.......Proven by the large amounts of bad looking men who seem to have GFs and wives.

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[Sunnybeach7]

I think it's unfortunate you have really bad confidence.. maybe your money could be better spent on some therapy. I can almost bet you're not as bad as you make it sound. Personally, I think short guys are cute.. of course, I am short too.. maybe try for a shorter woman. And ugly? really? What are you basing that on? That you're a little overweight?

You are not giving yourself or decent women enough credit. Yes, it is always easier to meet people if you are very attractive.. but that is never the real reason you should be with or stay with someone. What is important is what is on the inside. That is what is important in a long term relationship.. things like money and looks are good to have.. but they are bonuses in my opinion.

I'd been with a couple uglier guys in the past.. but when you get to know and love someone.. you will start seeing things that are attractive in them.

This will probably sound stupid to you, as a man, but you have to really love yourself if you want someone else to love you.. oh that's for everyone.. not just men. You know how a dog can sense fear? Well people sense things too.. and if you don't feel good about yourself, people can sense that too.. and it can make them see you how you feel about yourself.

Stand in front of a mirror and take a good look at yourself... There are things attractive about you.. I can guarantee it.. figure out what those things are and focus on that. Also focus on the things inside that are attractive. Focus on those things when you are on a date, and not the lack of confidence that you usually feel.

Having a hooker here and there I could understand if it's been a long time.. but to use it the way you're talking about.. that's no way to live for someone.. you deserve better than that.

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I'm 5'6", 5x4" penis, 2/10 face and physically can't exercise much. The average guy is 5'10", 6x5", 5/10 and much stronger. Going to the gym would put all the cards in the hands of the guys I'm competing with. I do hike everyday for health.



I'm already very lean, healthy and hygenic. But what really matters to women is size, strength and looks. Found that out the hard way.



Think about it. Would you date a guy with a good personality and my physical traits? No, but you bet other women would? And if they all say that? Somehow women don't get this. What's worse, if women find out you can't get a girl, most will actually lose respect for you. Its a way of feeling superior while pretending they aren't superficial.

Whoa.. that hardly makes you short.. and I wouldn't consider 5x4 small.. more like average... 6x5 is not average I think.. anyway.. it's not the size but what you do with it.. and yes.. I've actually been with a guy before that I swear he had almost nothing.. it was a one time thing.. I got into a relationship with someone else shortly afterward.. but he was better than almost any guy I've been with.

Yes and it was a complete flop. Most women ruled me out by height or looks. A few agreed to go out and liked me but felt no chemistry. Two said they wanted to just be friends, and actually meant it.

You are assuming? Did they actually say that? It may have been your lack of confidence or fear of what they think of you that made them feel funny or something.

Yes.. if I was single I would. Not everyone is the same.. maybe many women can be narrow minded.. but not all of them.

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You can last a long time.. but you think you can't satisfy a woman? Do you know that the most sensitive area inside a woman is only about 2" in? And that most women can't reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation anyway?

[smackie9]

A man's true strength is shown through personality, confidence and self worth.......that's why ugly fat guys can still get a wife.