hey guys, want some advise relating to issue i have been facing ..
There is a girl . We have been friend since we were 17 years old (now 23 years old)
I expressed my feelings for her back then .. she was not too sure (i think) back then but rather neutral .. (sometimes i think she was not so sure about me and my plans for future and how successful will i be in life) .. she was my dream girl all the time .. i was too serious for her.
Anyways time flew, now at 23 years of age, we are here. i m pursuing studies along with professional training.
we started to have chat after long time. and long chats indeed . soon she got too interested . my life long dream was coming true .
But at this very age, i faced behavioral changes owing to responsibilities of life and economic and socio factors that comes naturally with age. Now i have new life to start in front of me . i am getting mature.
But she, now after all these years i had been waiting for here, is willing to enter into relationship with me ( atleast how its look to me )
But i didn't want to keep her under any wrong impressions or lame promises (i can understand the feeling of that as i had to wait for all these times for her) and so i didn't answered this time positively to her (even when she offered me her number)
as i think i will not be able to provide the time and attention to her as i was in position n enthusiast to offer her at age of 17.
so that she is free and not there waiting for me as i had to wait for her once.
I Think it's okay to hurt her for time being rather than to hurt her a lot more with pain of rejection as she did once to me .
for Time being, i acted like a normal person (friend) to her and didn't pass on any sign of interest to her.
She soon stepped back implying the meaning of that.
Am i Doing right ?
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06-03-14, 06:17 AM #1
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Am i doing right for both of us ?
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08-03-14, 10:28 PM #2
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Anyone ?
I am double minded at the moment so wants your advise . plz
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10-03-14, 04:09 AM #3
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You and she should either get together now or go your separate ways for good. If you dont want to be with her then quit the friends BS coz its too confusing and messy for both of you. Neither of you will ever really fall in love properly with anyone if you are constantly distracting each other. Move on already and dont waste this much time on anyone again
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
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12-03-14, 10:16 AM #4
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I just want her to be my friend. a simple plain friend. with whom i can share my heart. i dont want to be part of LOVE thing . a good healthy friendly relationship is just what i want. is it possible to make it so. if so, how ?
Originally Posted by michelle23
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12-03-14, 12:55 PM #5
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What you want is entirely inappropriate if both of you are to date others. If you want her be a friend who's a part of your group? Sure, that's fine. But sharing your heart is something you save for your partner. Originally Posted by arslan_sweeto1
Edited to add: "plain and simple friend" and "with whom I can share my heart" are oxymoronsLast edited by basilandthyme; 12-03-14 at 01:00 PM.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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14-03-14, 08:13 AM #6
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But The point is things have changed quite a bit after all these times Originally Posted by basilandthyme
She is over with her studies and started job recently. and on the other hand i am pursuing studies along with job. I hardly find time to look after myself :/ .. At the moment, i m overweight n can't jog or gym due to tough schedule
Part of me says to go for it and start a relationship with her. i had waited long for this moment. Other part of me says don't ruin her life for your own pleasure and selfishness. You can't offer her care and time any relation deserves. This will result only into mess for both of you.
So i am kinda confuse whether i should go for it or not
