Prom Drama ANY AND ALL HELP!

[Mandophon]

Valentines day: I ask my co worker, Kate (we also go to the same school) to prom with half a dozen roses and a rice krispie with the words "Prom?" written on it. I asked at work in the changeroom. She cried and said no because someone else had asked her hours before in school THAT DAY. (I had bought the roses two days before and wanted to wait till valentines...) She later asked me out but for personal reasons at the time, I declined. I asked her out later but then personal issues came into play and I could not follow up. Then last week, I found out that she actually likes me and doesn't want to go to prom with the other guy because she only likes him as a friend...

I asked another girl who had said yes but then said no because after I asked her, the guy she wanted to go with had asked

I ask first, or second, i still end up with the short end of the stick...

1) I want to ask Kate to prom...but I've MAINLY decided to not do this because that would not be fair to the other guy...(unless you guys can tell me otherwise, I'm lost lol)

also if I'm asking another girl, Sarah to prom, (if kate falls through) what to do about these things:

2) who pays for prom tickets? (if its kate, I will because I like her alot and she likes me)

3) is it ok if I just ask with no gifts?

4) any advice on how I should approach this?

[Kalfusadon]

Why the hell would you even wanna go... Do not waste your time with that crap, broblem solved!

[smackie9]

Duplicate post!!!!!!!!!!!!!! refer to ask a female forum please.

[Mandophon]

hows this for a re ask?

next time I see her, I literally ask "Hey, so I was wondering if you're still going with that guy to prom still?"

If she says no! then I'd ask if she wants to go with me
if she says "Ya i'm stil going with the other guy, or idk... (the i don't lnow/im not sure answer is the most probable considering what I know of the situation),

then I say in a very serious tone. "ok, cause I got asked to prom last week...and I havne't given an answer back yet to her cause i'd love for you to go with me."

then i'd add "oh don't worry about it then, just have fun at prom! My mom's grounded me till summer, I can't go out with any guys or girls till summer so we can hang out after exams instead? I think that'd be better."

i think thats the safest way I can "re-ask" her to prom...PLEASE BE FRANK

[basilandthyme]

Why the hell would you even wanna go... Do not waste your time with that crap, broblem solved!

he probably wants to go because he possess the skills to socialise. And he also understands that he must get out of the house and actually talk to girls if he's ever going to have a relationship. It's not rocket science

[Kalfusadon]

he probably wants to go because he possess the skills to socialise. And he also understands that he must get out of the house and actually talk to girls if he's ever going to have a relationship. It's not rocket science

Its conformism, nothing more

[basilandthyme]

Its conformism, nothing more

"conformism" is the way a miserable git would look at it. A miserable git will blame the event to rather than admit to his own social ineptitude. But those who enjoy life, friends and socialising would call it a great night out with their mates and an opportunity to progress further with those who they fancy.

The fact that you fail at life does not give you the right to put your boring, depressing, cynical shit on others.

[Kalfusadon]

"conformism" is the way a miserable git would look at it. A miserable git will blame the event to rather than admit to his own social ineptitude. But those who enjoy life, friends and socialising would call it a great night out with their mates and an opportunity to progress further with those who they fancy.

The fact that you fail at life does not give you the right to put your boring, depressing, cynical shit on others.

Well have it your way... Its easy to think like that when media and society is at your side... Thank god there is still people like me who relice the truth... And please if you really want to give this guy advice, just ignore me, i only posted my opinion and if u keep replying we will ruin this question so plz you wont change my mind you can just quit and focus to those who still live in their cloud castles...

[Mandophon]

lol

as before, what do you guys think about this re ask?

My friend made it for me after I told him my situation. I don't usually like "scripting" it out but the mechanics seem sound!

Please tell me what you think (except telling me don't script it. I know but it wouldn't hurt using some of this...unless there is something fatally wrong with it?)\

My bro messaged me this:

next time you see her, you literally ask "Hey, so I was wondering if you're still going with that guy to prom still?"

If she says no! then you'd ask if she wants to go with me
if she says "Ya i'm stil going with the other guy, or idk... (the i don't know/im not sure answer is the most probable considering what I know of the situation),

then you say "ok, cause I got asked to prom last week...and I haven't given an answer back yet to her cause i'd love for you to go with me instead."

then you'd add "oh don't worry about it then, just have fun at prom! My mom's grounded me, I can't go out with any guys or girls till summer so we can hang out after exams instead? I think that'd be better than just one night you know?"

[smackie9]

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[Mandophon]

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what too boring lol?

[smackie9]

Telling her you are grounded makes you sound like a tool. She doesn't need to hear that. Just deal with the task at hand....going to the prom.

[Valixy]

Its conformism, nothing more

I don't know if it's conformism or not, but I think that many times there is far too much drama involved. I didn't go to mine and from what I was told I didn't miss much.

Feel free to interact on the forum whenever you're not playing your shaman and feel like it :-) Some people may appreciate your posts, others not so much, but it's the same with everyone :-) This is just passing time and every now and then trying to be a bit useful.

[Kalfusadon]

I don't know if it's conformism or not, but I think that many times there is far too much drama involved. I didn't go to mine and from what I was told I didn't miss much.

Feel free to interact on the forum whenever you're not playing your shaman and feel like it :-) Some people may appreciate your posts, others not so much, but it's the same with everyone :-) This is just passing time and every now and then trying to be a bit useful.

My posts are only my own strong opinions and are not meant to hurt anyone personally, therefor they are not to be taken too seriously.

[Valixy]

My posts are only my own strong opinions and are not meant to hurt anyone personally, therefor they are not to be taken too seriously.

Your opinions are welcome, K. Especially because ''they are not meant to hurt anyone'' - I really like the gentle thought :-)