confused

[miki]

Well, I just met a guy from new york on Tinder last Saturday. It was his idea to meet up and I've accepted. He's new in my country and then, we had lunch together and I've brought him walking around and visiting the city. We've talked a lot during the walk. He keeps telling that i'm different from other girl he has known, my personality is different from other girls, and that i'm beautiful and so on. I'm a very shy girl and I've never been in a relationship before. During the walk, he tried to grab my hand. I was shocked and felt very shy then he released my hand. He tried to grab my hand several time but he apologized about what he did. Then, we went to rest in a cafe, i was showing him something on my phone and then he started to touch my hand very slow and smoothly. Later, I think that because he didn't really grabbed my hand, he tried to play with me liked ''give me 5'' to touch my hand. Before I went home, he said he wanna take a picture with me, so he came to sit beside me. But after, he started to touch my back very slowly and smoothly. I was totally shocked. On the bus, he asked me to pinky swear that we will meet again. He's a very cute boy but i think that it was too quick that he grab my hand on the very first time we met. I don't know if he is playing with me or is it a way boys show there feelings to a girl. I'm kinda afraid and confused.. and was it a date for him?

[smackie9]

If a guy makes the effort to ask you to meet him, and has spent hours texting you, that means he has a romantic interest in you. Nothing could be more obvious than him trying to hold your hand. Now that you have refused to hold his hand, he is probably confused because you gave him the impression you were not very interested in him. He may not contact you, or his communication with you will drop off. You need to act quickly and TELL HIM that you are not experienced, TELL HIM that you want to take things slow, TELL HIM you do like him, but want to get to know him better. If you get that message to him, then this could turn into something nice. If he avoids you, then you will know he had only one interest and that was to get into your pants. let me know how it turns out.

[miki]

Thanks for your advice, but i'm afraid that i'm not the only girl he is texting with because we met on social websites or maybe i just think too much. He still texts me but in a more romantic way like '' gorgeous, cutie''. I think that everything happened too fast. I've only met him once and the way he talks to me is like we've been dating for a long time. I don't know if i should take this relationship serious or just stay friend.

[Wakeup]

WHY DON'T YOU tell him you think he is being too forward, that you are a shy and inexperienced young lady? Do you expect men to not show you any romantic interest and then he becomes your male girlfriend instead of your romantic boyfriend?

If you like him then show some interest. Holding your hand is NOT too forward. What nationality are you? Were you raised in a Nunnery or a strict religious upbringing?

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should take this relationship serious or just stay friend.

A man you met on a dating site does not want you as his platonic friend. He wants you for more then that (how much more is what you need to find out by taking things slow (but not at a complete standstill like you're expecting).