My sort of cuckold fetish gone wrong. Please help.

[philstar1985]

I have been with my girl friend for about four years things have been going great. About 2 years ago I told hear I have been fantasizing about her sleeping with another guy to see how she reacted. She reacted positively and slowly I told her more about my fantasies and how I would like to try them out.

Okay, so basically my fantasy goes like this; My girl friend meets another guy who is totally alpha to me in every way humanly possible, better in bed, better looking, bigger penis, etc. I want her experiences with him to be the ultimate pleasure, while she is out having sex I am at home working out trying make my six pack better and body bigger to try and compete with the other guy, when she gets back after being screwed better than ever before I go upstairs with her and try my best to compete sexually with the other guy but never succeed. During sex she tells me what he did to her and I repeat it trying to do it better for example, lick her better, do her harder, try my best to satisfy her completely. Afterwards I go for a run or do something to make myself more appealing to my girl friend.

I know this is very weird, but from what I've read cuckold fetishes are hard wired into the brain, it's not going away so I may as well enjoy it, besides I'm no where near as extreme as some cucks are, I'm not too submissive, I don't want to watch or be involved with the guy at all and I don't think I'm a "sissy cuck." Anyway I wish my fetish didn't turn me on so much but it does, so much so that I can't ignore it.

About 9 moths ago, after a year of role play she decided to go out and do it for real with a friend she fancied from the gym, I was so excited. After the first time she slept with him, I waited by the front door and the second she got home we had the best sex ever, I could tell she really enjoyed the whole experience, she felt sexy and totally liberated. Things were going great she had total control in the bed room and I always made her ejaculate, although her lover was always a lot better in bed.

Then about ten weeks ago I started noticing some changes. She started telling me that she loves me more, complimenting me saying I look good and toning down the sex talks and meeting up less regularly with other guys. I started to think maybe she is feeling guilty so I talked to her and told her not to feel anything negative because I am aroused by the jealously and humiliation that's what a cuckold is, as long as we both have fun no need to worry about my feelings. Still nothing changed, if anything she seemed to want to tell me more how good looking I am. So I didn't say anything I just went with it, she only went out to meet her lover about once a week.

About a week ago things turned really sour for me. We had sex after I thought she had been with her lover, we both enjoyed it. Afterwards she was smiling at me, I looked at her and said "what?" She told she hadn't really gone to meet him, that she only really met him a few times, that he wasn't really better than me in bed, that she'd go to Kerry's house for a cuppa or somethin' when I thought she was with him and that she loved me and only me. She said it as if it was supposed to be good news like I'd be happy.

I felt so betrayed, nervous, my hand were sweaty. I just realized the past nine months have been a lie, I felt so angry with her so called "lover" or "bull" for not giving her the pleasure necessary to make our cuckold relationship work, but worst of all and possibly most worrying is the fact that she doesn't understand that I have a fetish and there's no way I can turn it off. I've tried to convince her to consider sleeping with someone else, that there are millions of guys out there better in bed than me that will be more than happy to give her extra pleasure, but she won't have it, she's not interested.

I don't know what to do because my fetish is so powerful. I am starting to feel like maybe I should leave her? Or maybe I should refuse to satisfy her in bed since she is unwilling to satisfy my needs, besides I need the competition, that's what drives me to do better when we have sex.

I love the thought of my girl being naughty and having the time of her life. It's nice that she's devoted to me and I am to her too, but I really want carry on being a sort of cuckold.

Any advice will be appreciated ty.

[KingZ]

Sick fu​​​​​​ck.

[michelle23]

She doesnt share your fetish so your not compatible. You cant force her to do something she doesn't want to do and trying to punish her sexually in order to get your own way is abusive, destructive and unhealthy.

People with fetishes are so god damn selfish. Its all about you, your needs, your desires, getting what you want, its an addiction. The best thing you can do is break up and find a girl who shares your fetish because that is the only way anyone will ever understand or be happy with you

[Starnique]

She tried it. She didn't like it. Maybe she has found her self respect. You don't need a woman. You need a ho. Even if you get a ho, it's no fun ho'in around if you know about it. That'll probably take the fun out of it. So get you a ho, that don't give two ****s about you, with no self respect and who will enjoy this foolishness..with you playing the role of the fool.

[searock]

You are sexually incompatible, it happens. The relationship will not last, you both need someone that is sexually compatible with you.

[Valixy]

You should seriously revise your principles in a relationship. You should acquire some self control with the help of a professional, if necessary. You should not allow yourself to be a slave of your sexual appetites. Some sexual fantasies should remain just that, fantasies, and should not be brought to reality dragging and corrupting someone else into them. You have NO RIGHT to try to influence someone else just because you don't have any self control and you can't make the difference bewteen right and wrong anymore. You need professional help as soon as possible. And your girlfriend should have more personality and enjoy being single for a while.

Make the effort to reeducate yourself. It's worth it.

[Wakeup]

"sissy cuck"

lmao

[philstar1985]

She doesnt share your fetish so your not compatible. You cant force her to do something she doesn't want to do and trying to punish her sexually in order to get your own way is abusive, destructive and unhealthy.

People with fetishes are so god damn selfish. Its all about you, your needs, your desires, getting what you want, its an addiction. The best thing you can do is break up and find a girl who shares your fetish because that is the only way anyone will ever understand or be happy with you

I wouldn't "force her" because then she wouldn't enjoy it. I need her to fully enjoy the experience for me to enjoy it too, I tried to convince her to try it out some more because I think with the right guy involved we could boost our sex life. Even though I suggested leaving her it's not something I would ever intend to do because I love her and our relationship out side the bedroom is perfect, inside the bedroom is good also, although it's lacking the sexual competition I desire.

Besides, if I left her, I do honestly think it would destroy her. Recently she's been so very keen to show me how much she loves me, I think she feels that I started the cheating thing because I'm insecure but I'm not, it just turns me on. She compliments me so much now even though I prefer being insulted in the bedroom and told to do it better. She wants to try and change how I think about sex I guess.

I'm gonna try and make someone up in my mind and compete with him, that way I won't have to worry that he's not good enough for her because in my head he will out class me in every way. Hopefully she will meet someone and decide to try again, until then I'm not going to say another word to her about this.

The only thing I might ask her is to stop being so nice to me because that makes me feel uncomfortable. Or will that offend her? Part of my fetish is working out, running, treating her nice, taking her out for meals, etc and nothing being good enough to satisfy more than the other (made up from now on) guy does.

Thanks for you advice, but I'm not going to leave her. Also you don't know me well enough to make that presumption that I'm selfish. I honestly feel my friends, family and my girlfriend all consider me to be a kind, considerate, generous person. I don't care if you disagree about that, the reason I was talking about me, my needs and my desires is because I am on here asking for advice on MY relationship so of course I'm gonna talk about me.

[searock]

You don't get it. She isn't into the same things you are into, sexually. You are not compatible. Asking her for different ways to adhere to your fetish is not going to make it any better. She wants to have a "normal" relationship, with no uncommon fetishes. You want something different and it's just not going to work.

[Wakeup]

Besides, if I left her, I do honestly think it would destroy her.

Narcissism too... h'mmm?

[michelle23]

Its selfish to expect a girl who doesn't share your fetish or understand it to change her sexual needs in order to suit yours.. this is a situation where you cant really compromise. Shes monogamous, she wants a faithful relationship. You do not. Thats not just a sexual need-its a moral value and a belief that you cant just change. She tried it and shes not happy to continue doing it. Either accept that your fetish cannot be a part of your life anymore or break up with her and find someone who is happy to fulfil your fantasy.

I would consider therapy though. Fetishes are usually created in childhood by some trauma or emotional need that was unfulfilled. Maybe if you understand why you have this fetish-you can try to overcome it and live a happy life without it

[smackie9]

Ya I agree your answer lies with therapy to help you "control" your fetish. Do it for your GF if you seriously care for her.

[Wakeup]

I think your girlfriend's fetish is the thrill she gets out of you two being sexually incompatible to the nth degree.

[Angiewatson]

Interesting scenario one that others can't appreciate or understand unless they have experienced it some way.

Firstly you need to reassure her and try to make her understand she is the only person in your life she needs to be aware that your NEVER going to do the same thing and sleep around. You need to show her how much you are deeply in love with her no matter what happens or what she does. Try and do little things for her buy her sweet trinkets flowers ect, wash her car clean her shoes do little things for her that will make her life easier show her that she is your goddess make her life as easy as it can be. Work on that for a good few months or even a year before moving on.

Then you need to show her your not man enough for the sex she needs, now this is a difficult stage and you need to make sure you are still prepared to carry on with the things above in first stage and more whilst doing this. Start to reduce the penetrative sex slowly, masturbate before on the evenings you know she's going to want sex, I know it's difficult but worship her body more with caressing and kissing do more oral sex and make sure she is pleased every time whilst you show her that your OK with not climaxing, make her desire the penetration and the real mans weight on her that your not providing. Buy some larger dildos ect and try and make her comfortable using them, jokingly say things lime I bet you use them whilst I'm not here! Buy some DVD's of black porn stars with unreasonably sized penises lol and watch them together and try pleasing her orally whilst she's watching them.

Then the third stage is the one you ONLY do if your absolutely sure you want this and only after your first two have been completed successfully for a long time as it probably change your relationship dynamic forever. You need to let her lose just a little bit of respect for you as a man and lover How you do this is up to you but I find it interesting that you say you don't think you want to be a sissy cuck? Why mention that of it isn't on your mind? My husband loves being my sissy maid and finds it very rewarding as do I. He went through the process above and then, I believe, willingly let me catch him fully dressed in expensive lingerie he'd bought for me. When I found him dressed he said he had felt the need to dress this way for some time to express his submission to me. Initially I called him gay and blew my top so be prepared to work hard on your reassurances to her that your not. He then said he was fine with me having lovers and dating men if I could just allow him to dress this way occasionally. Ten yrs down the line I still love him but in a different way, are you prepared for that?

Be sure to let us know how you get on? Xx