Smoking Fetish

[Anna2]

I discovered by accident that my husband has been watching smoking fetish videos on Youtube. He was really embarrassed when I asked him about it, but he did confess he has a smoking fetish. I had never heard about this fetish before and thought it was so weird, but I guess fetish are all weird in a way. It was hard to get it out of him, he was so ashamed. I felt bad for him, he look so sheepish! He compared his fetish for women smoking to a disease he can't get rid of. I don't think it is that big of a deal, I looked it up online and looks like it is not a rare fetish for men's. I told him I was glad he shared this with me, although I wish he would of shared this earlier instead of hiding it from me.

I'd like to be able to help him with this love/hate relation he has with this fetish. I read on other online forums how couples are using this fetish as a sexual fantasy to spice up their sex life. Our sex life could use some spice right now, it is not bad, but I sometimes feel guilty we don't make more efforts to make it "great". I think this might be an opportunity to get closer again and show that I care. My biggest problem is that I don't smoke and have no interest in it! He is the same, he wouldn't want me to smoke either. We are both very active and healthy conscious people.

Advice please!

[smackie9]

Why not try roll playing, dress up as a dominatrix, and light up but don't inhale. Or pretend to smoke, watch the video together, whatever you are comfortable with. I know participating in something new might make you feel you are opening up Pandora's box, but with open honest communication, and making compromises, this could open the door to new and other exciting things to increase the fun with your sexy time together.

[Anna2]

We never really tried anything like that but I am curious! I am really tempted to pursue this even though it sounds out of character for me! I will talk with my hubby today and see if he is interested in trying something new. I don't see any risk and this can only bring us closer if we communicate honestly like you mentioned.

Thanks for the advice and anyone else with experience with this fetish or suggestions, please pass it along!

[Wakeup]

We never really tried anything like that but I am curious! I am really tempted to pursue this even though it sounds out of character for me! I will talk with my hubby today and see if he is interested in trying something new. I don't see any risk and this can only bring us closer if we communicate honestly like you mentioned.

Thanks for the advice and anyone else with experience with this fetish or suggestions, please pass it along!

You can buy electronic cigs. now that look like the real thing that you can drag on and blow the vapour out that looks like smoke.

Even if you join him in his fetish he may still want to view other women smoking, etc. but don't take offense, its no snub on you, its simply his preferred self-pleasure time.

Have fun.

[searock]

Even if you join him in his fetish he may still want to view other women smoking, etc. but don't take offense, its no snub on you, its simply his preferred self-pleasure time.

Yup, just like "regular" porn :-).

[smackie9]

One fetish I find interesting is balloons. There are groups and clubs for it, where they all meet and rub balloons on each other or just watch.....weird!!

Or those group hugging clubs where people lie around in PJs and roll around hugging total strangers.

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[Anna2]

My husband and I had a good pillow talk last night! It took him a while to open up more to discuss his fetish openly with me. Although he wasn't too keen at first, it wasn't too hard to convinced him we should explore this together and see if it might improve our sex life. I already feel closer to him having had this discussion! He is not really interested in electronic cigarettes, so I am thinking of just using real cigarettes, without inhaling as you suggested Smackie.

Now that I am committed to smoking for him, I must confessed I am a bit nervous having never smoked a cigarette before! Hopefully I am doing the right thing by fulfilling his fetish!

[Wakeup]

Boner killer alert: Great that you're on the same page and all however: you'll be subjecting the two of you to second and third hand smoke in order to satisfy his kink. Cigs are very addictive as well so keep that in mind.

[somehelp4me]

That's a new kink. Are the women naked and smoking the cig with their pussies if not why was he embarrassed about it?

[Wakeup]

... lolzzz ...

[smackie9]

I feel keeping it a secret is half of what turns them on. That would be one reason what he's not too on board with sharing it.

[loverocker]

^^^lmao