Trust issues

[zachman1100]

I don't know where to start.

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. The relationship is moving pleasantly quick as we have both expressed how deeply in love we are with each other. I see her every chance I can which is every weekend (Friday, Saturday, & Sunday) I stay at her place. We have a GREAT time most of the time. This weekend because I have Monday off she wanted me to stay with her for 4 days this time which I am absolutely doing. She is mildly bipolar (as in she rarely flies off the handle) but when she does it really breaks my heart. When she does she assumes all the worse, things like I am cheating on her, or wanting to see other women. And sometimes I get the texts like I did tonight where I thanked her and called her my "beautiful angel" because that is what she is and she said she loves me and misses me BUT because I couldn't respond right away (I was coming back from the gym on a motorcycle) 10 minutes later she immediately assumed that text was for another girl.

I want her to talk to me, nothing she can say will change my love for her and I have told her that and I absolutely mean it. I even twice last week 2 days in a row (one day I left work) drove down to her house after similar texts to help her through it and talk to her about it, she was very happy after I left later those nights. The one thing I have going for me is her mom adores me and so does the rest of her family and they understand her passed relationships, her trust issues, and insecurities. I want to (perhaps with the help of her family) help her through this. I honestly love her with all my heart and we even talked about spending our lives together and starting a family.

Please help the text I got tonight are tearing me up inside and she wont respond back to me. According to her mom she hasn't had a very good day today.

[basilandthyme]

Zachman, it's great that you're understanding of her mental health issues. However, someone who's bipolar needs to be sorting out these problems with their psychiatrist - not their partner and family.

Leave it to the experts. And expect nothing less than her full compliance with meds, counselling etc.

Oh, and just adding that her having a bipolar dx does not mean that you should accept being treated as shit. Personally, I'd walk away from this behaviour unless she immediately addresses it with her psychiatrist.

[zachman1100]

She does get help and she is on meds for it and I want her to stay on the path of recovery. I just wish I could do more, it really breaks my heart to see her like this, I know she doesn't mean it and I have gotten to the point of understanding that. It hurts more that I can't think of anything that can help her.