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    Did I do something wrong?

    Girl I've slept with once and was getting to know totally freaked out on me today and I'm wondering if I was really in the wrong so I can do better in the future.

    She responded to my "Hi! How's your day going?" with "Sorry I replied (x) hours later. Was in the hospital." I said I was sorry to hear that (she told me a few days ago that she was starting to come down with something and because of that, I was thinking it must be that that illness got worse but didn't assume cuz it could easily be a family member too) and I expressed my condolences as stated above. Her reply: "NO you're not. But that's cool. What's up? Just hitting you back up since you texted me earlier." I thought her insinuating that I didn't really give a shit at all was really insulting so I said as much and then she proceeds in the next couple of texts to call me "an absolute idiot", "a tweek", and says I should get "happy pills" and stop playing a victim card, ending with "what you said is ****ed up and you should take responsibility for your actions."

    Was my attempt to be decent and have some sympathy just a really tactless move? I mean, most normal people would see me as just trying to be sympathetic without pitying them, I'd imagine. On the other hand, I can't dismiss that maybe I was wrong?
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    sorry YC, she sounds like a nutter. And I know how shitty it is when people misjudge our intentions. "Lose her number" is my best advice.

    You've made great progress, so don't let one crazy chick set you back. Onwards and upwards
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    Thanks, basil! She's one less problem now (deleted her number).
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    She was clearly angry at you and nothing you would have texted would have been taken nicely.

    What you said looked okay by me, obviously it had to do with something else, does she consider you her BF and was upset you weren't at the hospital with her?

    She over reacted on you.
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    God I thought I could overreact at times lol but no I can't see how she could have got upset overt hat. U certainly did nothing wrong x

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    I have put up with much worse for a good piece of poon.

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    ^ LoL. "poon"
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    In answer to your question above, no, this was strictly a FWB relationship. I'd like to say I manned up and dismissed this chick and her insults but honestly it really stung after.
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    Hey, I get hurt if a mere aquaintence misconstrues my intentions. It's normal to be upset about something like this.
    Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.

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    She was already miss pissy pants about you, you can tell by her reply to what you said... I wouldn't have been mad or upset at your comment to her..was she wanting you to express even more concern, ask lots of questions to her, idk. She should apologize for what she said back to you...no need to go for your jugular.
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    Methinks you're not telling us the whole story, or this chick is moody and unreliable. Get over it.

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