Worried about my first time.

[hollyanne]

I'm an adult, and I've never had sex. I've really never even all that intimate. It's just been through clothing. The man I'm with now, I want to be with him. We've talked about it, and despite his reassurances I'm nervous. He's older than me, more experienced than me, though he has said it's been a long time since he's been with a woman.

Even though he's being very sweet about it, I'm still frustrated. He will wait until I'm ready. I want to, but he doesn't think I'm ready. And he's kind of bigger around than I had assumed. So now I'm more worried about it hurting.

[hollyanne]

I see this is not as active a forum as I had hoped.

[dontaskme]

How do you know he's bigger?

[hollyanne]

He's told and shown me.

[dontaskme]

How old are you and your guy?

[hollyanne]

I'm 25 and he's 38.

[dontaskme]

Lotsa foreplay. Let him play with you and you play with him and once you are wet that it is almost dripping, then he can inject you with his polska kielbasa. You'll be fine. Once you experience it, you will never have enough of it.

[michelle23]

I agree-lots of foreplay. Don't do it if you feel tense or uncomfortable. It wont hurt much if your really into it and wet.

Best of luck

[Exeter19]

agreeing with dontaskme and michelle above. just let him lead you, if older and more experience and have him please you the first time and as time goes by you can learn and then please him more. don't stress on having sex, no point.