Is he ashamed of me?

[Tolyn]

Me and my bf have been dating for 2 years, lived together for 18months. In the whole time we were together, he has never introduced me to his frens, let alone his family. He will see his mom every sun while he goes out drinking/partying with his mates twice a week on a fairly regular basis. He has never invited me to come along.
Even when he is with me, if any of his mates call, he has never revealed that he is with his gf. He will answered in front of me and tell his mate that he is attending to something important. ( I am a thing?)
But he has met all my closest frens and my family. My sis and her husband will come visit us on a monthly basis and my bf openly invited them to stay v us; at his house. And they have done so. For weeks at one time. He attends all my parties, wedding dinners,etc with no hesitation. So, wats up here? Why wont he mention to any1 close to him that he is in fact dating me? Can he be ashamed of me? I am a social escort by proffession but I have stopped accepting any bookings with sex required. Can anyone pls advice? Thanks!

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Additional information about my bf is that he is 45, recently got out of his marriage of 17 years.

[woody]

I too would find it odd after such a length of time if my s.o hadn't intro'd me to his fam or friends. You've talked with him about it so what does he say? What are his reasons?
A real man has pride in his lady. Are you sure he's up to that? Do you think that due to your past job he is concerned with sharing details about it with his friends/family? You know, it really isn't any of their beezwax anyway right?!! Call yourself a life coach if need be.
If you have shared your hurt feelings with him and he still continues this unjust treatment, well then lady, maybe he's not the man you thought he was. Sorry to say.
2 years like this is not cool. You have every reason to be concerned and the reasons are justified.
If it is the type of work he is concerned about, change the description of it. Without knowing if you've told him or not how your feeling I cannot offer any better advice except, 2 years is way too long to be kept a secret and there must be a reason; find out what it is and act accordingly with pride.

[katyk]

When I read of people who find out nasties about their partners and then read they know nothing about their family or friends I instinctitvley feel WHY? HOW? OK so 2 years down the line after living with the guy for 18 months you know nothing about his past? other than what he has told you right? How can you be sure he isn't still married for instance? Something doesn't add up honey bunch. You do sound very trusting, maybe too trusting huh?

Next time he goes to meet his 'mates' tell him you want to go along. If his reaction is no, you wouldn't like it, say "how do you know" (I am not very good on flags so can't work out where you live. If you are in a country where it is ok for females to go out alone....find out where he is and join them! A true boyfriend would not choose his mates over his girlfriend. Also, where does his mother live? Find out and go introduce yourself. She may be as intrigued as you!!!

Of Course you may have to be prepared for the worst! Either he will dump you for being suspicious or you will find out things he doesn't want you to find but either way....I couldn't sit back and let this situation continue.

[belltops]

Painful truth...He is ashamed of you.


**moving on, nothing special here

[basilandthyme]

You say that you've been living together for 18 months, but that he's recently out of his marriage. Is he still married? Was he living with you while still married? This could be why he's kept you secret.