I really need males opinion about this!

[nickyyyyyy]

Few days ago I saw my ex bf after a year on some charity event. There wasn't much contact lately, and we also didn't see each other because he lives abroad. I don't want to go in details so I'll just say it was serious relationship but he left me because of a lot of problems going on in his life and also because of distance. He did love me, we were also planning a life together but this isn't very relevant to what I'm trying to ask.

As I said, I still find him attractive, maybe I still love him. But today when I saw him my body started shaking and all I wanted was his attention. I decided I'm going to write a note and put it in his jacket. So I wrote: "I still find you attractive/hot/handsome as hell"(my first language isn't English thats why I wrote all 3 words-to be more exact, on note I actually wrote only one). I wasn't very sure I'm actually going to give this note to him because I wanted to wait for good opportunity.

Than he came to me out of nowhere, and we were talking for about 2 minutes. Regular stuff. He was nervous and so was I. Yet he was kind and smiling.My note was still in my pocket. When he left, I called him back, took his hand, put a note in his hand and smile.
He asked: "what is it?" I just looked him in his eyes, smiled and walked away.

I was so nervous because I didn't know that to expect. There were many questions running through my mind. Questions like:
Will he read it? What will he think? Will he contact me? etc...

Anyway, I got his fb message later in the evening saying "thank you for nice note"
Later he also said it made him smile a lot.

Today I decided to invite him for a drink. Do you think this is a good idea? How will he respond? How do you think he felt when he recieved message?


Every opinion is more than welcome! Would like to hear male thoughts.

[Archie]

If back then you parted on good terms, then this might be a way to get back together. The outcome of this invitation, this date, will depend on wether he has a girlfriend/he's ready for a relationship and has taken care of his problems/he still has feelings for you.

No matter what happens after this, it's still a good gesture. It's not necessary to become good friends or keep in contact after a break up, but it's always good to stay on good terms. If anything, he can be your friend.

[Wakeup]

How do you know the problems he had have been rectified and no longer are problems? If you did what you did not knowing if he is any better (or not) then he was when you broke up then you certainly weren't looking after your own emotional health.

So: Are his problems fixed? Is he still living abroad from you? If the answer to those two questions are "no" then stay the hell away from him because you'll just be going back to round two of the BS you went through before.

As for your question... He told you that he thought the jesture was nice. Leave it at that and get on with your life without him in if he's still living long distance to you or still has the problems in his life he had before.