Boyfriend looking at erotic massage adverts

[BusyBee]

Hello everyone.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years now and a couple of weeks ago, I used his computer to have a look at some hotels on the Internet when a pop-up from his mail came up in the corner.
The title stated "your advert: body to body massage with happy ending". As you can imagine, I clicked on it and saw that he had obviously found an advert on the Internet from a lady which offered body to body and tantric massage with a final blow-job or hand-job, whatever you prefer.

He'd asked for more details and stated that he was clean and fit, and asked for an appointment.

I obviously called him in and asked exactly what that was, and he said "I don't know, I was just being curious". I asked if he was planning on cheating on me and he said no and anyway it wouldn't really have been sex as there was no penetration. He didn't want to go, he was just wondering.

JUst to answer the few possibl questions. We have sex regulary and by that I mean min once a day and more at the weekend.

I'm not exactly frigid, we change psoitions try toys and all and I even have taken some classes in tantra massages.

Can you explain why he did it?

[Wakeup]

For the new relationship energy/sexual passion.

[BusyBee]

Not sure I get that

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I gather from the lack of response that it is a common understanding between men that having a blow job is not actualw cheating, is it ?

[Wakeup]

You should have been a blow job.

What is wrong with you?

[dontaskme]

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I gather from the lack of response that it is a common understanding between men that having a blow job is not actualw cheating, is it ?

What about if you were the one to give a blow job to another guy, would you and your husband not consider that cheating?

[basilandthyme]

Not sure I get that

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I gather from the lack of response that it is a common understanding between men that having a blow job is not actualw cheating, is it ?

No, the lack of response is because not everyone spends all day on their computer at your beck and call. A bit of patience is a virtue.

Your boyfriend is planning on cheating on you with a prostitute. What kind of response do you want?

[BusyBee]

Yes, he would, I asked hiom and he said, he wouldn't accept that, so I said, and if it's you it is ok.

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Well, I did talk to blokes I know before coming here. I got mixed answers, some said it was just curiosity and he wouldn't cheat, others said that was quite normal, all guys would do that.

[dontaskme]

Well, I did talk to blokes I know before coming here. I got mixed answers, some said it was just curiosity and he wouldn't cheat, others said that was quite normal, all guys would do that.

Why does it matter what his friends say? If it's unacceptable to you for a prostitute to suck his dick then that's all that matters. Tell him or walk away if he keeps cheating on you.

Now, if you don't give a shit, then quit bitching about it.

[BusyBee]

Why does it matter what his friends say? If it's unacceptable to you for a prostitute to suck his dick then that's all that matters. Tell him or walk away if he keeps cheating on you.

Now, if you don't give a shit, then quit bitching about it.

I didn't ask his freinds, I talked with mine. Point is, he didn't go but why did he contact her then? I would have a problem with someone sucking his dick as you put it.
My problem is, I know he contacted a prostitute, he didn't go, ok, for him that means he didn't do anything bad, but for me it means he had the intention of going.
He asked me to give him another go and that he was just being curious but how can I trust him about it?

[dontaskme]

I didn't ask his freinds, I talked with mine. Point is, he didn't go but why did he contact her then? I would have a problem with someone sucking his dick as you put it.
My problem is, I know he contacted a prostitute, he didn't go, ok, for him that means he didn't do anything bad, but for me it means he had the intention of going.
He asked me to give him another go and that he was just being curious but how can I trust him about it?

How can you trust him? You can't but that is up to you at this point what you want to do, not up to your friends nor the people on this forum. Decide what you can or can't tolerate and put up with. you want to give him another chance, go for it but make it clear to him that you won't tolerate him being the dog that he is!

[BusyBee]

I sat with him this morning to discuss the problem. He said he wasn't planning on cheating on me but he could see why I wold think that as he did contact the woman. I said that it was the only reason I decided to give him another try, he did though show me his detailled phone bill and his mails to proove that he had deleted the mails, respectively, not phoned the prosititute.
I put one condition in it, I said the slightest lie, the slightest hiding things he would do, I would put an end to it straight away.
For me, getting a naked massage from another woman or getting your dick licked or rubbed by another woman is cheating and thinking about it is as well.