I can't believe I'm asking this! I usually read people pretty well, but the man I'm interested in has got me totally stumped, and all my friends too. He's a fantastic person, but he's in his 50's and his last two relationships ended in heartbreak so I understand he actually didn't date for months after the last one. The thing is, he's a good old southern farm boy with only brothers, so he is this mega-gentleman to everybody -- maybe a little too gentlemanly. We only see each other at church, which isn't exactly Flirtation Central. He always gives me a big hug, but he does that for a lot of people. He always talks to me, sometimes seeks me out, but again that's common. He did mention when he first met me that he was looking for a serious relationship, but I was so taken aback I just stammered something lame. He also told me once on a business call that I am "beautiful, clever and funny - just perfect!" Before seeming totally mortified and changing the subject suddenly.
Here's the thing. I'm 10+ years younger than the guy, and most men find me really attractive. I'm pretty successful, but I would be truly wealthy if I had a dime for everybody who told me he was intimidated by me at first. I like this guy so much I can't stop thinking about him, but I'm not sure whether he's not getting the message, or if he's not interested. I'm worried that he likes me but assumes I wouldn't be interested in him. He is single as the day is long, but he's manically busy bc he is expanding his business at the moment. He never goes out lately, so I haven't even been able to bump into him at parties.
I'm afraid of coming on too strong, bc I don't want him to freak out... what on earth do I have to do to get this man to open up to me - or at least blow me off so obviously that I get the hint? I can't exactly give him a lap dance in church.