There is a woman I met online (already back in January). We had some quiet fun conversations. One day she stated the following:
"I'm fed up of virtual communication. I'm trying to focus on real life interaction. It is much more human and rewarding... so if you would like to keep in touch we have to get offline...I.e. Have live interaction..Even if it's just friendship."
So, we exchanged phone numbers and set up a date, but she cancelled a few hours before. Then there were other attempts to meet but it didn't work because of several other reasons (one time I was sick, another time she was sick, work reasons, ....). However, we kept calling regularly. About two weeks ago I called her and after some small talk I asked her about this "real life interaction". She suddenly became nervous and confused, said the word "dilemma"... She ended by saying "I'll call you back tomorrow or the day after and tell you". She didn't call but a week later she send me the following "I have not forgotten..I owe u a drink ( or was that u?) and an explanation ( that's me for sure)... Are you free today?"
That day I couldn't make it, but we met the next evening.
She was like I knew her from the online and phone conversations: a very friendly, humorous and intelligent person and besides that she was dressed like .... attractive (stupidly I didn't realize this during the meeting).
It started quiet good, but it became less while the date progressed (see the paragraph "Problems with first dates"). At the end of the date I asked her to have another meeting and she said "we'll see" (she mentioned that she didn't had any plans yet for the upcoming (long) weekend). However, I'm afraid that this "we'll see" just means "No".
And I didn't got an explanation (like she said in the text message)
What I did after this meeting as follow-up:
1. shortly after the meeting I asked her by text "Did you arrive safely at home?" + reply back
2. tried to call her a couple of days later to speak (and arrange a new meeting), but I got the answering machine and left a message. No reply until now.
It's been a week ago now. (I'm often slow in these matters)
Do I I still have a chance with her? And what should I do for this? Or I should accept that it will become nothing (again)? (and that I'm just wasting my time by typing here....)
I'm thinking to communicate quite soon again since next week I'm traveling for work outside of the country, which makes it more difficult to communicate.
I see the following possible now:
She asked me a question about the nightlife in my city and she mentioned movies several times during our phone conversations. In two weeks there are several movie showings in open-air. Maybe too ask her for such movie evening and at the same time show nightlife in my city.
Problems with my first dates:
I keep failing them...
A sticking point for me is that they happen too boring; talking about jobs and hobbies, etc. (it's almost like a job interview), but I can't build up attraction/connection which leads to a next step...
Also I'm not leading/initiating the progress of the date.
I don't emit nervousness, but I don't behave as smooth, cheerful as normal.