I'm not sure I would say i'm not attracted to my wife anymore just embarrassed to go out in pubic sometimes. When we first got together she cared about her appearance at home and when we went out in public. It wasn't till after the 3rd kid we started to have problems. shes 5"3 and was 110lbs when we started dating now shes 220lbs. (I don't expect her to get back to her original weight but at least a healthy weight.) After we had our first kid she lost some of the weight after the second she said she would wait till we where done having kids to drop all of the wight well after the 3rd and final kid a year later she hasn't done anything to lose any weight. She doesn't care how she looks and doesn't care what people think of her. She says shes married she doesn't have to impress anyone anymore. Am I wrong to think she should still want to looks good for me? We just had a fight yesterday we where going out to dinner at a nice restaurant just the 2 of us for the first time in months. We where going to leave and shes dressed in a ratty T-shirt and jean shorts. I didn't say anything to her about it. On the way to the restaurant she asks if i have a problem with what she is wearing.(it's not the first time we have had this problem) I said i thought you would put something decent on its a nice restaurant. She gets pissed and starts to say I don't think shes attractive anymore and if shes not good enough to find someone new. It ruined the whole night. I guess my question should I approach her on the weight and appearance problem? Or am I wrong to think she should care about her appearance and looking nice for me? I'm not sure if shes not happy in the relationship when we have had fights she has made comments like if you don't think I can find someone else then your wrong if we break up ill just lose all the weight and find someone else.