Signs of a Meddling Mother in Law
So, I am beginning to see signs of an overly attached mother in law. She is trying to "make suggestions" about the type of wedding I should have, how much I should be spending. And I have a feeling that she is planning to move in with me and my partner when we get a house. My partner has been telling me how his mother doesn't have a good relationship with his dad and that she is planning leave him in the future and how she only has her son left (guilting him to let her move in the future?) and my partner has been reacting negatively to my opinion about not wanting to live with an in law. I also suspect she has been influencing him to hold certain opinions about me and things that impact his decisions as it relates to our relationship because I am beginning to see new opinions from him that I have never heard of and things he never cared about. Knowing my partner's childhood and how sheltered he is because of his over-protective mother, I highly suspect that this is her nature. How do I deal with a meddling mother in law? Meddling mothers in law interferes with relationships and can be a factor in breakups, divorces, etc. I don't want this to happen to my relationship.
A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything
She uses logic and manages her emotions
She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them
She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions