all men cheat according to my b/f!

[carpflounder]

whatever. what does it matter anyways. Like my Asian friend said "Man sleep with other women, thats how is."

Either get over it or get someone else. Get busy living or get busy dying.

just out of curiousity what are you going to do??

[NeoSeminole]

I've never understood why women don't want their man to cheat. From a biological perspective, guys are meant to procreate with many women. There is a reason we continue making sperm until we die. I think women dislike cheating b/c women are naturally more selfish creatures. They want the man to focus all his resources on her and her young to give them an advantage (this is just my theory). I am not saying that men can have sex with any female. Women who are in a relationship are off limits. If a man breaks this sacred rule, then he should get his ass beat by the other guy.

<<puts on anti-flame suit>>

[shh!]

I don't know that you could say that it is more selfish of a woman to want her man to devote himself to his own family than it is for a man to want to have the freedom to stick it any old place...

[NeoSeminole]

you assume a man who sleeps with other women cannot be devoted to his family.

[shh!]

Not if he is spending financial resources and time that belong to his family on someone else. Or, he might be devoted on some level, but certainly to a lesser degree.

[carpflounder]

to a lesser degree.

And there are guys who beat there wives but never cheat on them. Who's to say whats less or more?

[shh!]

And there are also guys who don't beat their wives OR cheat on them. Why do you need to compare the men at the bottom of the barrel? They are hardly representational of ALL men.

[whaywardj]

It's less a matter of cheating than one of how willing a man or woman is to gamble a long-term benefit for a short-term gain. All the explanations and excuses people offer to rationalize themselves are just ways of calculating odds on whether they'll come back from an affair richer in character, or come back at all.

[NeoSeminole]

shh, there are many cases of men living multiple lives with different women. None of the women knew their husbands/bf's were cheating on them. If a guy can meet his obligations at home, who is to say he shouldn't be allowed to sleep with other women?

[TAVS]

Depends on your Morals.

[NeoSeminole]

exactly, but where do morals come from?

[whaywardj]

Why do we call it "cheating" anyway? Where does this presumption of monogamy in love relationships come from in the first place?

[NeoSeminole]

whaywardj, that's what I would like to know.

[shh!]

who is to say he shouldn't be allowed to sleep with other women?

Umm, maybe his wife? Unless they are bucking "tradition" and agree to an open marriage, anyway. Some people do it, and so long as it is agreed upon, then I don't have a problem with it.

[NeoSeminole]

ssh, that is like the husband telling his wife she can't be friends with other guys. You still haven't given me a good reason why women don't want men to cheat.