What should I do? is he interested?

[Xttnx]

So I recently started going to my old church again with my cousins and there's this guy there I'm confused about. First off, it's been practically 8 years since I've been there but his dad still recognized me and he loves me soooo much because I'm very attentive and involved in the church (I'm also the leader of a band in church). His dad always talks to me and awknowledges me in bible study (he's the youth sponsor) while his grandma gave me a huge hug and told me she's soo happy to see me again 1st time I saw her. I messaged him a couple weeks ago to ask if he wanted to play bass in my youth band and he was fine with it at first but he told me later he couldn't do it bc he can't play 2 weeks in a row. He would usually take hours to reply or maybe even days then again we barely talk in person bc I barely see him in church. Anyways today, he was in my youth class (and his dad was paying a lot of attention to me as usual) and he was sitting next to his dad. I always look at his dad when he talks just out of a respect, and I could see my crush glancing at me a lot from the corner of my eye at times. When he was joking with the other guys, I THINK I saw him glancing at me afterwards a couple times. The thing is, we were sitting in a circle and he was in front of me to the right and his dad was on his left so I don't know if he was glancing at his dad OR me.. Also his grandma saw me again yesterday and gave me a hug while she didn't give my cousin a hug who was right next to me.. is there a chance his family has talked about me before bc his dad and gma really like me? His dad talks about him a lot to me tho like when I was talking to his dad about colleges, his dad always mentions him in the Convo like oh he took the SAT too on Saturday, or he's applying to colleges early action too, etc. is there a chance he's interested? He never approaches me though even tho I'm sorta new, he just stares or hangs out with his friends (he has a lot of lady friends). What should I do?

[TheEvilJester]

I mean, from the details you provide, there really isn't enough evidence to support a theory one way or the other. It could easily be that he likes you and has been stealing glances at you, or it could just as easily be that you just happened to fall in his line of sight now and then. Heck, I myself sometimes space out or am thinking and I stare off into the distance. That sometimes results in somebody just happening to be in my line of sight, but I'm not actually really seeing them, I'm sort of just in my own world.

So, really based on the very little interaction you have had with him, there is no way to know. So, why not just try talking to him? I know it would be nice if he talked to you first, but that hasn't happened yet, so why not just get the ball rolling yourself? Through that, you can get some idea as to whether he seems to enjoy talking to you or not. Hopefully, if he seems to feel the same way, he will ask you out. Though, if he does seem to like you but doesn't actually ask you out even after a while, again, don't hesitate just to ask him out.

Again, yes, I get that it would be nice if he'd take the initiative, but there's nothing wrong with the girl making the first move these days. He may be really shy, or he may just not even have thought to ask you out. Though, I will caution this.... If you two do seem to get along well, and if you actually do ask him out.... It shouldn't wind up becoming a pattern where you ALWAYS have to make the first move. It is okay if you maybe have to get the ball rolling first, but if you start to feel like you are the one having to drag him every step of the way, then maybe that is a sign he isn't ready for a relationship right now.

I think most important right now, though, is this... IF you give it a shot and he does not seem interested, don't let that get you too down. If he doesn't want to give you a chance, there will be a guy who will someday.... and maybe he will actually pursue you first. You are still young. You'll find that special somebody, whether it turns out to be this fella or not.

Good luck to you, though. I hope it goes well. :-)