So I'm sort of involved with my best friend. She recently had a breakup (2 months ago) and I'm pretty sure things started as me being a rebound I probably am still idk. I would have liked to wait longer by another 2 months atleast but she just asked me if I liked her one day and i kinda went with it. Anyway we've always been really close as best friends usually are. Most of my relationships haven't been super successful and lately with her things started to get a bit dry, so i decided to do something about what I normally do in relationships, generally I often tell the other person how i feel, how much i care about them, and how they make me happy. I figured if i feel that way its probably good to let them know. Well i suppose this behavior comes off as a bit smothering and i kill whatever fire there is. With my best friend things kind of went similar until i noticed it last night. After reading that i should stimulate the emotion part of her brain i decided to try it. Things changed almost immediately. We talked the whole day and it seemed like i did most of it, i asked her for some pics and got no response so about and hr or 2 later I told her i was going to bed (i normally talk with her for several more hrs) so it was abnormal for me. About 2 mins later i get a phone call and a sad face txt i decided to ignore it. Today I woke up with 3 new pics on my phone.
My question is does anyone else think this is crazy? If i would have told her she meant the world to me I can promise she would be less responsive then me ignoring her. Do women actually enjoy this behavior? I feel like i care so much about her and the only way to keep the relationship going is if i put on this facade that i care less. It even makes me feel like i should reevaluate relationships where guys do care less because if this is really how things "work out" maybe the guy who doesn't care so much is like me and he really cares a lot? Honestly i don't want to exhibit this behavior in relationships because to me it feels less then honest. I really don't know what to think of this anymore, the reality of the world seems so different then it should be. Up is down, peace is war, freedom is security, If you care a lot about someone don't show it.