I coach individuals/couples to consider an entirely new perspective on relationships. Men can have so much more sex and be so much happier in general, if they chose it. He is shortchanging himself with his mindset. He will benefit immensely with a shift in perception to romance. There is no benefit to emotional distance in a relationship, although men and women constantly let this evolve. He doesn't realize that he could naturally WANT to be romantic. The hardest part is bringing him to the conclusion that he could question his life and become much happier as a result. Your first task is to unconditionally accept the current circumstances, no matter how hard it is to do so. He may never choose to be happy, and this may lead you to end the relationship. You are feeling all bottled up inside. You have incredible stores of romantic, sexual, and emotional energy ready to burst. It hurts to not be able to give to one you love.
Good Luck,
Relationship Teacher
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