I have been friends with a guy for a year. We get on so well and he has everything I look for in a partner. In the summer he asked me out but I said no, mainly as I had stronger feelings for someone else and I wasn't sure if I fancied him. Even if I thought it would work I did not want him waiting around whilst I wasn't over someone else.
There is nothing wrong with this guy and he is decent looking. A few days after he asked me out he left the area for work commitments which is why he asked me out as he wanted to do it before he left. He has been back a few times whilst working.
Last month for my birthday he said it was important to celebrate my birthday and he bought me a birthday cake, meal, a rose and perfume and said I deserve it, other friends were at this meal. One of his friends always says it's a shame and says the guy is a nice guy, which he is.
Shortly after my birthday he has been dating this girl but he did not tell me. I don't know why he didn't tell me as I thought we got on. I saw him this weekend for a friend's party. He said he was glad to see me and that things haven't been going well with this girl and he can't wait till she has gone. His friends said they have split up but she won't leave him alone but she is moving back abroad for good next week.
He said the girl has made his life really unhappy and that we must catch up. I admit I did feel a bit jealous when he was with this girl but don't know if that is me being selfish. I am just confused about how I feel and don't know if he has moved on or not.