Meeting Online VS Reality

[usernamee]

So I typed out this long thread, then my page refreshed somehow and everything disappeared so ill try wrap it up in less words this time.

I met this guy online almost 2 years ago, he was a friend of a friend. He added me on Facebook and I sent him a message to say hey and stuff. We've talked almost every day since, and we get on really well. We're very close friends now and I could tell him anything. He seems really nice.

We've met 4 or 5 times in "real life" if you get what I mean. The only thing is, we hardly talk at all cause we're both extremely shy. We talk a little bit but I always end up feeling uncomfortable because of the silence. It makes me feel annoyed because if things were the exact same as they are online, I'd love him. And I feel as though I love him now. But when we meet up, I don't feel any attraction at all. (Not to be rude but it doesn't help that he's foreign and I cant always understand what he's saying).

It's not completely his fault because I am shy too, and I can never think of something to say. Maybe it's nerves. I can think of plenty to say online.

I've told him that I loved him online twice, and he said he loved me too. He always tells me that I make him feel really happy. I try not to say it so much these days because I feel as though I'm leading him on, which I don't want to do, of course.

I don't know if I should keep meeting him and see if things get better, or if I should just say bye to him. I'm trying to think of it from his point of view.

Any ideas as to what I should do? I would really appreciate any suggestions.

[smarta$$]

A lot of being in love with someone has to do with face-to-face interactions. Physical chemistry is important... what you did was to invest emotionally in the *idea* of being in love. If you can't talk in person, there is no relationship.

[samiy]

Life gives us all hard knocks

[Gladimeir15]

I say, continue to talk to him as what you did in your online chatting. Sometimes efforts are a big influence we fall in love with another person. Just try to work it out.

[smackie9]

You are going to have to get over being shy and make the effort to be more physical with him. If you don't find a more confident guy.