Bi girlfriend has a female best friend she flirts with

[christofferson]

I have been in a monogamous relationship with my bisexual girlfriend for the past six months. We've recently been discussing incorporating threesomes so that she can further explore her female-female side, and we are both feeling pretty confident about doing so. However, today, when we were talking about this, she brought up that she had been thinking about her best friend (female) who she sometimes thinks about in a physical manner. This is the first time she admitted this to me, but it was pretty obvious to me already. When I'm with them, and sense that it's a bit more than just a friendship. The thing is that they have been intimate in the past, and so her liking her friend in that manner seems more complicated and more serious than anything like a threesome. Her flirting with this friend makes me feel uncomfortable, and I'm not sure how to handle it. She hasn't done anything with her, and so I'm not really upset. I'm just uncomfortable with the situation, and I don't know what we could do to make it better. I don't have a solution, and me feeling uncomfortable is kind of driving her mad since she insists that I come first and that they haven't done anything together. Any advice?

[hazey daisy]

Ya find a new GF. It's pretty obvious you are not that kind of person that can let the emotions go and be ok with her getting pleasure from someone else other than you. You have certain values and expectations, and you both are not compatible in that area. The implications of the aftermath will be so damaging, your relationship will eventually fall apart anyways. Seriously you really have to be on board 100% or it won't work. You are who you are, and what you believe in....there isn't a solution to make you feel ok about this at all. You are opening up a Pandora's box THB. You know this isn't about you wanting to experiment at all this is about HER desire to have an open relationship so she can carry on with having relationship with others.....that's the true reality of this. She's trying to make it look like you are getting something out of it so she doesn't have to do it behind your back. Which there is a possibility she already has.