Need some guidance here

[Bricks]

Dear forum members

Some months ago, I flirted a bit now and then with this cute girl at my sports club,
she seemed to like it a bit (or she just thought it was funny how I acted, I don't know) and her friends seemed to
have fun with it as well (make jokes now and then), but I couldn't tell if she was in to me or not.

After that, some negative things happened to one of my friends, so I was totally distracted from this girl.

But then, a group of my friends and I were on the way home, she was in this group as well, when I asked her something.
To answer this question, she moved up next to me and stayed next to me until we were almost home. So this made me think again.

But then, time wen't by again... (for a week or so)

Until a few days ago, when this certain girl started a Facebook conversation with me, about something I post. She never did
something like this before, and nobody I know ever did it, so I thought she might be into me.

So we started to chat a bit and did that for a few days, until we came on the idea to do something together, so I asked when, and
then she added that she wanted to ask some of her friends to join, because otherwise, she would feel sorry for them that they could not join.

But when I see her at my sports club, she never looks at me or something like that, only when one of her friends says something to me and
she seems to be a bit silent to me, while she talks more when we chat using Facebook now and then.

So I'm quiete confused here, and that means I have some questions that I need help with.
First and foremost, what do you guys think, I know its hard because I'm the only one that sees this in real life,
but according to my story, is there something that can be suspected?

And next to that, I still don't know if this whole appointment is going to take place, and when it does, these friends will be there as well,
but I had this crazy idea to just pick her up out of the sudden to do this activity with her, where we have been talking about for
some time and which she wanted to do very badly. But I wonder if I should do this, as I might look like a total moron when
she says no when I ask her, as I still have some years left at this sports club and I don't want to become the next wimp. What do you think?

Thanks for all the help, I will keep you guys informed.

Bradley, NY.

[Barryallen123]

She's not comfortable around you yet. You have to pull her out of her shell. I'd suggest bringing her friends along and then you try to get her to be with you when her friends are around. That would make her think that having her friends tag along would be unnecessary

[TheEvilJester]

I agree with the Flash. (Barry Allen. ) I mean, come on. He's the Flash. How can you not agree with the guy? He's so pure and good. LOL!

No, but being serious, I actually do agree with what Barry had to say. You said it yourself and I will agree that none of us can really tell you for sure because we weren't there to witness it in real life....

But from the little you've shared with us, I would guess that there very well IS a chance she could be interested in dating you.... but maybe she's just a little shy and not yet comfortable enough around you to know. Her wanting to hang out with you is a good sign. Her wanting to include her friends may not necessarily be a bad one. She may want some time to first get to know you better while not having the pressure of it being an actual date. Not to mention the added benefit of getting her friends to be able to form an opinion of you as well.

So, I think my first suggestion would be just to go on this group gathering and have fun. Have fun with her, but have fun with the rest of the group as well. If that seems to go well.... just go ahead and ask her out. Take it from somebody who knows from experience, if you keep looking for hints and clues to make you feel comfortable asking her out..... then you'll just keep looking for hints and clues to make you feel comfortable asking her out.

You would really be much better off just asking rather than to keep wondering. Heck, if she says no that will suck.... but at least then you will know and can stop wasting your time. But, think of it like this..... if she says yes, wouldn't you be kicking yourself for even considering not giving it a shot? Good luck to you!

[Bricks]

Thanks for the advice, but there changed some things.

When the appointment with her friends was planned, I was very ill and couldn't
really go (I've tried, but fell of my bike due to dizzyness). So I wasn't there.

Now I'm thinking about just executing my plan to take her to this date I was talking about,
but the way she acts lately makes me doubt whether she's interested.

What should I do?

[TheEvilJester]

Well, what has she done to make you doubt whether or not she's interested?

That MAY change my opinion, but in general my opinion would still be the same. You won't really know unless you just go ahead and ask her out, so you might as well just go for it. Again, maybe she'll reject you, and that would suck for sure.... but then you can move on. At least then you know and no longer have to waste any time wondering if she likes you. You can just move on and find another gal to ask out. Again, if you just keep trying to interpret her every move to try to guess if it gives hints as to how she feels about you, you'll just keep over-analyzing everything and never come to any conclusion. So, why not just give it a shot?

Good luck!

[Bricks]

Thanks, I will!

But because you asked, the reason why I doubt is the fact that she doesn't look a me, not if I'm with her and her friends, she just looks down, sticks to her friends and looks
to nobody.

[TheEvilJester]

I see what you mean. I mean, sure that could possibly be an indication she's not interested.....

But it could also be an indication she's been a little down about something. Or, it could just be that she's kind of shy. Or it could be that she's not a super outgoing person by nature and takes a little time to get comfortable with people.

For that matter, it could even just mean nothing. Maybe she likes you, maybe she doesn't, or maybe she's never even really put any thought to it at all. No matter the case, unless you get some kind of obvious signal (and most often you don't) you won't know without just trying.

Good luck to you.