my girlfriend left me in January to go to a wedding and she hasn't returned yet. She continuously feed me false hope of her returning creating and endless cycle of pain and heartbreak. Her parents kept her their for the first couple months so she'd break up with me but when given the oppritunitity to come back to me she decided to stay multiple times making me question whether she loves me or not. It's now September and she hasn't returned yet and I've been waiting for her more or less on and off for 9 months. Through all this I've gone through my worst case of depression(literally 9 months of laying in bed) and ontop of it all she made me lose hope, trust in everything and I've Seriously died every day. She has decided to "eat shit" until her parents allow her to return home ( she's 19 btw) and instead of doing something to take control of her life she chooses to wait till her family deems fit when she can return. I've asked her numerous times to come back to me because this is the girl I want to spend my forever with but she just refuses to grow a back bone and do something for herself. So my question is how do I get through to her so she can take back her life and find the will to stand up and fight. Should I just leave her or should I keep pushing her to come back. From what I've gotten from her it seems she doesn't love me at all... So if anyone can maybe help me with this Dilemma it'd honestly mean the world. Maybe if I show her strangers opinions she'll come back