Hi
I am a male 34 years of age and my gf is 40, we have been together for 1.5 years, in this time she has never given me a BJ. I questioned her what is wrong, she said because of the smell, I said i can wash it, but then there was no comment. I then questioned her well in the past she gave them to other men so why not me, then she said she was young then, now she is 40 it's not nice for her. Is this normal?
Also I want to pleasure her everytime we have sex, but she said it is not necessary and she don't like it all the time. Few times I mentioned I can use vibrator on her, but she said no, she does not allow me to use vibrator on her. I then question her why she does not allow me to do things to her and then she says I always complain.
I also find it difficult to approach her for sex during the week, and I always make her initiate it.
Should it be like this? because I can only compare to previous relationships and they were very open to trying things so for me this is normal.
What am I doing wrong here? Should I take a break from Sex?