capricorn male breakup

[randomgirl123]

I've never used anything like this before for advice! But I thought I'd give it a go.
Recently, my capricorn boyfriend broke up with me. Our relationship of around 6 months was very smooth, very fun, loving and adventurous. We never argued. If ever there were negativity, it was due to issues outside of the relationship. For example, I've been upset about drama or family issues on the very rare occasion. Sometimes he would be angry or agitated over similar issues. Again, this was very rare. On a whole, this has been the smoothest and most loving relationship I've ever had! So when he broke up with me I was very upset, very shocked and of course very confused. His reasoning for this was 'it's not you, it's me'. Which at first really bothered me. How can I have any closure with an answer like that? But as time has gone by, he's opened up a little more about it and has explained he's just in a weird place. I knew this for some time and I'm aware he's unhappy in areas in his life, like his home etc. I'm pretty sure he's been dealing with depression too as he has shown some signs, and when hes explained his dark places he's been through mentally I've been able to relate, having suffered with the illness myself. He's explained to me that he feels like he can't give me what I deserve and that I deserve better than him and that he is no good for me. His past relationships have been very toxic and he's left for those reasons. And he's admitted, same as myself, that this has been the best relationship hes had. So why is he leaving? I've come to the conclusion that by being in a good relationship for once it's almost pushed him further to realise that he is in no fit state for a relationship. With the other ones, the toxicity of the relationships gave him a bigger reason to leave. The point of this post is, it's been three weeks now, and we're still friends. I for one am finding it difficult to simply accept its over. I have accepted it, but I feel like if he were to get his life back on track we might be able to make it work again in the future. But as a capricorn man I know that they rarely go back to their ex's and it takes them a lot to simply leave. That they have to have a good long think about things for some time before they set off and go. But on this occasion he's told me its not me and its him that i've been golden and the most supportive to him, the most loving and the best at..everything else too. So do any of you think theres a way I can somehow get him back? I feel like theres still a little something there, as we have been cheeky about sex over text the past few days. We are still in touch as friends and he knows im there to support him through this as a friend OR together. I just wish he could see that we can still be together and get through it. Any advice on getting back a capricorn male?

[shrah25]

Hi there - ok, so I personally don't subscribe to the star sign beliefs that you have so i'm going to give you some advice based on my own experience of working with lots of men in this situation.
Firstly, the "its not you, its me" is the oldest reason in the book. Now i'm not suggesting it's not true at all, but i'm just suggesting that this is primarily a get out of jail tactic that men use to ensure that the breakup is as smoothe as possible.
Now why do I say this? Because what kills a guy more than anything is making his woman unhappy. It absolutely sucks and by creating a painful breakup, it adds even more pain to the mix.

When we are in a relationship, very rarely is it just one person that has their own issues and it has absolutely nothing to do with the other person. It takes two to tango hence it's really important to understand how the relationship functioned operationally. ie were you truly serving his needs? Was he really fulfilled in the relationship? BTW, if I was talking to him, i'd be asking the same question so please don't take this as me interrogating you.

Now with all that being said, guys also have this mindset where they need to feel worthy of having a good woman and if they are feeling inferior at all, they can sometimes feel the need to exit and leave the relationship until they feel good enough. So this could very well be happening here. The other thing is that if a guy is in a relationship and he is dealing with his own set of issues, adding the complexity of a relationship unfortunately adds more weight to his shoulders. I'm not saying that this is logical but it happens. I can assure you that I went through very similar things in my own relationships in the past. Someone of them were great women but I just didn't want to have the added burden of a relationship whilst I was busy with other stuff.

So the short of it is that, you have only described a very small part of your ex and hence it's difficult to be 100% sure what's going through his head but I would suspect that he's struggling with self worth issues but even with that going on, there are ways in which you can bring out the masculine instincts within him that will make him want to serve, care for and protect you. These are not for Capricorns only!

Does that make sense?

[Hooo!]

I would never buy bullshit about "its not you - its me"
if he felt he was not good enough thats one point
however it is your decision to decide if he is good enough for you or not.

i would not take such bullshit.
if you think he is good enough for you and you are happy with him then he has got to accept that.
If he doesnt like himself or anything that is understandable. However he cant tell you not to like him. thats not his decision.

He will have to get himself a better excuse.