i dont see why you two cant hang out
you are and stay authentic. (and that is - like said above - really really awesome!)
You continue to seduce her and to feel for her.
She obviously does not mind and want you to continue doing just that
if she says she is not "over" her ex that could mean a load of things. It could mean that she is hesistant and hurt
it could mean she is hesitating because she doesnt wanna be a "flit"
it could mean she still has good feelings toward her last partner - which is natural because he obviously wasnt a bad person
it could mean she is not sure regarding you
it could mean that her ex gave her something that you dont (usually that is domination if the old partner was a "bad guy") could be something else however
it could mean something else entirely
it could mean she wants to take it slow
it could mean she is afraid of love
it could mean she physically misses his presense (what shouldnt be a surprise if they were together for a long time)
it could be a combination of the things above
it is only "bad" if she still "wants to get back together" with her ex.
You want to seduce her because you have feelings for her
she knows that
the best way for you is to spend time with her then.
However that bears the risk for you getting hurt.
So if i were you i would set boundaries.
I would tell her that I hurt if i am with her and cant be really with her. So I would always continue to seduce her when we were with each other.
Also there may come the time when you cant take it anymore, because you will not "wait" for forever.
Also if she still wants to get back together with the other man she should not spend time with you and hurt you in the end.
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.