Basically what my screen name is IS my trouble.

[Shoukon]

Hey, good to hear from you again. As Lovebroken said, reading those e-mails would be many steps backwards. Yea, destructive narcissist are all too common. I've had the same experience throughout life and had to just rip then out of my life and some, such as family members, are near impossible to deal with since you can't just stop talking to them. The best solution I've come up with is just not caring what they say and do.

Maybe a better way to explain this is that, as a last resort, we un-invest in toxic people and use those un-invested resources to invest in non-toxic people and ourselves. Your time, your caring, your emotions, your heart. You take back all of that, have all those things for yourself, and have the freedom and ability to give those precious things to those who don't hurt you. It creates self-esteem, self respect, peace, reduces destructive patterns and demolishes the strength of people who are out to hurt you. It's not easy, and rarely can this be done immediately, but you're worth enough to not have to suffer because of others.

[CantMoveOn]

[MENTION=77017]lovebroken[/MENTION] I still have not opened. Have so much family drama at the moment that it is distracting me off him. I got a weird call during the Florida hurricane because (he) knew I would spend several times a year in FL, no text just unknown number and last unknown I got was during his bachelor party last year similar times in the year

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[MENTION=85947]Shoukon[/MENTION] Thank you. It looks like the website is being porn spammed at the moment I guess why no one seems to be posting? How do you learn NOT to care what family says to you that is aimed to hurt you? I recently had my niece do something, my sisters' daughter and I cried on it. I always counted her and my dad ( now deceased) as someone who loved me and wouldn't actively hurt me. I was wrong. Wonder if my sister is tainting her opinion of me so since my sister disrespects me my niece thinks my feelings don't matter? My sister tries to engage in texts and email wars so she can send replies around to others, which I heard about so I won't engage with her anywhere but in person or on the phone and it frustrates her