Confused about Relationship I ended!?!?
Ok, I am new to this forum and my name is Dan. Hello Everyone!
I dated a beautiful and smart lady for 2 years and 3 months and I broke up with her in June of 2008. The issue over the break up was that she was a doctor (resident) who was matched in Boston, however, we met and fell in Los Angeles. Therefore, I got cold feet and was scared to commit and move to Boston with her so I broke up with her right at the moment she had to leave LA. Anyway, I REGRET it so damn much and within 2 days I called her to tell her that .... Also, I was wondering if she was the "one" I would marry so it was really so much pressure and I just decided to stay in LA.
Furthermore, we met one last time before she left Boston, and I told her I would come out to Boston within a month. However, she was very skeptical and I became frustrated because I expected her to be happy with my decision no matter how last minute .... Anyway, throughout June we talked and fought about the break up while she was in Boston and I was in LA and sooner or later I became cranky with everything. I think we both needed space, but she asked me to come to Boston in July for a weekend, but I declined because we had such poor communication throughout June. Anyway, we both decided to break it off completely and I thought maybe it was done with once and for all. It was hard as hell, but we wanted to try and move without each other or calling much at all.
Ok, throughout August I cut her out completely and did not call, email, or text. However, my birthday was in late August and she called and texted me a sweet and loving message and it made me smile. Also, throughout August she texted me sweet things too. I was aloof, but caring throughout August but I wanted to try and date and meet other people. However, I kept thinking about her and I could not get her out of my head ... We move and I don't contact her at all until the second week of September.
Finally, my ex is in LA to visit her sister and she wants to see me. I'm floored and quite happy she wants to see me because I could not get her out of head, but I was not contacting her. Typical guy I guess right? I see her again and I fall in love all over she looks beautiful and she is affectionate and looking at me with love too. However, before we met she tells me she is dating someone, and I don't take it seriously because she was so loving throughout the time we met in September. Ok, 3 days after we meet I decide to get back together and see if I can go to Boston and visit and make this relationship work again. No, she does not even respond to my emails, text messages, or calls for almost a week it is SHOCKING.
Finally, we get a hold of each other and she tells me she never felt like I was committed to her, and she is moving on. I tell her how much I regret losing her and breaking up with her, but she is quite vague. However, there are some issues I need help with below:
1. When she calls me she refers to me by the romantic pet name.
2. She is interested in seeing me again especially if I go to Boston.
3. When I stop calling, texting, or emailing she calls or emails me and is sweet again.
Is she waiting for me to make a move? It is like she is nice and then gets cold and icey. A week ago she called and was sweet, so yesterday and today I call her but she has not returned my calls. I hate games, and I would have just gone on living without her in August but now I want her back, but she is resentful that I did not want to move to Boston earlier. What do I do?
