I know we're all going through pain and thats its all relative but man, your situation sounds tough. Stay strong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gecko18 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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I know we're all going through pain and thats its all relative but man, your situation sounds tough. Stay strong.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gecko18 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Baby: Ain't nobody gonna treat you better; touch you better; love you better more than I am. Pick up the phone and call me. It's not too late yet, but you're running out of time...
"What you risk reveals what you value".
You were prepared to risk all that we had in the hope of finding someone better. Says how much you valued what we had.
I'm ok with that, it wasn't what you wanted and that's cool
best of luck in your search to find something you value enough not to risk. But when you come back because you can't find anyone that treated you the way I did and you realise the value of what we had it will be too late because I don't see the value in you anymore. What you did makes you worthless to me.
No, no, no... That would be the worst thing he could do for your well being.Quote:
Baby: Ain't nobody gonna treat you better; touch you better; love you better more than I am. Pick up the phone and call me. It's not too late yet, but you're running out of time...
i wonder, i havent changed my mailing address since i moved out and i am sure that i have been getting mail sent to that address. my ex still reguards me as friends yet she hasnt said anything about me changing my mailing address.
should i take this as progress or what
Deep down I know you're right. He's not going to call, though. Either because he never really had any love for me, or because he's too stubborn to admit he screwed up, or because he's too lazy or proud to fix the mistake he now realizes he made. Every day that passes that he doesn't call me, I realize just how emotionally deficient, how self-absorbed, how relationally challenged he really is. I know it's not me... it really is him. But I just wish I could change all that. Shake some sense into him and make him realize what a bloody idiot he's being by acting this way. It frustrates me to no end that I have to suffer now because he'd rather throw away a good thing than put some effort into saving it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Get the book "The Secret" and believe that when one door opens it always leads to something better.
You're doing well, keep up the good work.
I've read that book, and I should read it again. Interestingly - my mother told me that when she went up to our church this morning to do her weekly volunteer work, the pianist caught her in the parking lot and struck up an odd conversation. She told my mother that she knew I had been occupied for the last several years working on my PhD, and that I'd sacrificed a lot of things to make that happen. Then she compared me to her son, who has been working for many years at a job that, while hugely sacrificial, has never attracted a lot of women to him. She said he's now engaged to a wonderful woman, and she told my mother that she wanted to encourage me to hang in there for the right person. I suppose it wouldn't be so odd, really, except that she had no idea I'd recently been dumped, or that the person I was dating I felt very seriously about. In fact, I'm not even sure she knew I'd been dating anyone at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm going to take this all as a sign that what happened was for the best, and that I'm going to come out ahead in the long run, just as you suggest. It's just so hard to stay positive when my heart feels so broken and I feel so rejected. It doesn't help that this is a really dark period in my life that I'm going to have to suffer through for the next 7 months in order to get where I want to be. My ex was the one really bright thing in my life that made me happy and gave me some sense of comfort. Now I just feel like my whole life is up in the air.
we never even really said goodbye..
I miss you...
Every time I read one of your posts I just can't believe the similarities between our ex's. It's uncanny.Quote:
Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I could almost just cut and paste your post, change him to her and it's done.
This is exactly where I am at with mine right now. Stubborn pride is the only thing keeping her from calling but really after seeing the way she has handled the last 4 weeks especially when it was her that did the wrong thing to start with , I really can't be arsed with it anymore. When she is ready she will talk to me .. what's with that?? Like I'm going to go yeah ok, I'll just sit here and wait then
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Originally Posted by Horseyguy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've been noticing the similarities too! It is really odd.
I am fairly well convinced that my boyfriend had real love for me - or at least, what he perceives as real love. I just think he's too wrapped up in his own life to be able to show it properly - and when I suggested he wasn't making much of an effort for me, instead of trying to demonstrate that love, he would just say he was sorry I didn't feel he was making an effort. So lame. Anyway... Because I think he did indeed love me, and because those walls came down sometimes and I was able to see the feelings he had for me, I assume that he threw in the towel because things got complicated and it was more effort than he wanted to make. Or maybe he just didn't want to be in a relationship that was so serious he had to make a sacrifice sometimes. Either way, my ex and yours - since they seem to be so similar - are going to realize sooner or later that their selfishness will get them nowhere. Maybe they'd rather be alone or just have superficial relationships. If not, they'll have to find a partner who's content to put forth 90% of the effort and be happy with that.
Picking up my broken pieces heart today, forced to move on by any means and learn to live half a life......theres a hole in my chest and you are slipping away from me...asked me to find another girl and faster getting married ??? what the hell is that? throw me away after 4 years of being together ??? blindly believe you are going to marry me and have awesome kids together? build our own happiness and grow old together? is that a beautiful lie ? is love a beautiful lie to you???? im not your disposable bag and you are way much better then this....until now im so confused by your way of saying no to me. I really hope you know what you are doing dear..because my heart is broken and almost beyond repair already...i know one day i will turn into a cold guy...
yeah buddy.. not fairQuote:
Originally Posted by Horseyguy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
PLEASE dont wish me a happy birthday today.. i just wnat to forget about you.
goodbye is actually nothing good in it...suppose to say goodpain insteadQuote:
Originally Posted by Purrzzzzzz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I wish you to have peace in your heart. At times, I thought you had that, but now looking back I know you had things tormenting you that I could do nothing about. I have to accept that now for both of us to have that peace and have a chance at being happy one day. Together or Not. I realize now that I would have just kept trying to solve it all and that would have never worked. Like I really have that power. If I did have that power we wouldn't be at this point. I know you'll find happiness one day when you can forgive those who have wronged you and give everything wonderful about you without an expiration date. Right now your love has a limit on it, because you are not truly free.
well if it doesn't have anything good in it, it shouldn't be called good pain either..lets try badbye? no i dont like lets just say bye? bye.Quote:
Originally Posted by kamazaki [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
yea man bad bye is good enough totally agree..Quote:
Originally Posted by Vert [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
i dont know what i feel right now, some kind of hate and pain..am i really hating you already for treating me like shit? just had a tattoo done last nite my design of your face with tribal style, thought of making peace with my feelings towards you...i really hope i can move on with my life after this...and hope you are happier then before...what i really do afraid is for you to come back at me and starting over again...i dont know what is this feelings inside me right now?? and i feel i dont want you anymore?
Stop leading me on! Please!
ME too dude... ugh i cant take this... time to send the letter and move on.. ive done all i could doQuote:
Originally Posted by Toddstar [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm still hurt by what you did, and I still really miss you. But I'm realizing more and more how wrong you were for me.
I went to college with a guy we'll call G - a guy I talked to sometimes at the dining hall, but never really developed a deep friendship with. On the night we graduated, I ran into him at the pub downtown, and he lamented that we never got to know each other better. In recent months, we've been talking, and since you so callously dumped me, we've been talking a lot more. He called me last night and I spoke to him in person for the first time in 7 years, and you know what? We had a deeper conversation in those 45 minutes than I ever had with you in the whole 8 months of our relationship. Why is that? Because you don't seem to want or know how to connect with people on that kind of level. You're such a nice guy, and I love you, but you have problems opening up, which you know... I suppose that made it easy for you to get rid of me when things got unpleasant between us, because you had invested so little of yourself in us. All I can say is, I hope you work through those issues or you are going to be a VERY lonely person in the long-run. It breaks my heart that you're this way, and that I couldn't get you to resolve those issues with me, but at least now I'll be free for some guy who really wants to know me and who deserves my love.
Good luck with everything. I hope you find a way to really connect with someone, since you weren't able to with me.
I just dont understand you.. one minute you say you dont know if you want to see me... that response is weird in itself.. then you text me for my birthday and it was a nice msg too.. WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME!!!!!!!
I'm feeling pretty good right now. Since our first meeting on Sunday I feel like I'm FINALLy getting to a place where I'm beginning to believe I don't need you. Do I still miss you?....everyday. Do I still think this is all pretty dumb? ...aboslutely. Do I still not so secertly hope you'll come around?.....with every breathe that I have. Do I think about you everyday?.....all the time. Do I still love you?...with every beat of my heart. But despite those feelings, I'm really beginning to accept that I don't need you and when I've accepted that it's a want more than a need, I can tell myself no. I can tell myself that I can exist without you. That I can fall in love with someone else. That I can still be. And I feel so much stronger because of that. The one thing that I'm really struggling with still is holding onto the hope. As a friend of mine said "you need to squash the hope...because you won't ever move on until you do." You might still come around though and because of that its a concept that I'm struggling with because I feel like at this point it's the hope that's been getting me through the days that you don't call. But she's right...i need to squash the hope. You aren't coming around...you don't love me and you don't want me. I need to accept that even though by just typing those words my heart sank. I can't tell myself the lie that you never loved me. I can't tell myself the lie that you don't care. Because I know that you do and so the hope continues.
Really, you called my number accidentally? Did you just realize how foolish it was for you to let slip away a guy that loved you and wanted to take care of you and only wanted to make you happy?
I can't talk to you because my heart still hurts. I deleted your number the day I decided I was better off without you. I figured you would have done the same after you cursed the day you met me. Leave me alone and just let me move on.
It kills me to see that you're online on fb, but we're not talking.... I wish you just told me you missed me. I miss you, alot. You've been on my mind all day, you always are.. everything reminds me of you, and everywhere i go we've been together.. I hope you'll realise you made a mistake soon and come back, i love you.. and i need you. Please remember our good times, and realise how much you love me. I know you do...
By the way, before you go, I'd like to say I love you so. If its goodbye, maybe for good, I will not cry....maybe I should. I love you so. How this year has slipped away, we shed no tears, so why today? And all this time has made me feel that love is no crime and love is real. And I love you so. Remember me when you are far away, I'll remember you no matter where I stay. All I've I got to say is I love you so.
I know you didn't mean to hurt me but you did.
I know you want us to try again but we can't.
I know you think I hate you but I don't.
I know you thought that I could never forgive you but I have.
I know you thought I'd wait for you but I wont.
I know you thought I'd never get over you but I did.
Be happy Karen.
I hope you can get on top of your issues and get to a better place and thank you for the time we had together.
Take care of yourself
you gave so much impact to bare when we being apart from each other...now 1 month 2 weeks you being gone, saw your post on facebook and trying very hard to be happy but that only last for few days right? then you become gloomy and prefer to sleep more then wake up right? i know you for 4 years and i do know you really well my dear......Why you choose this path for our relationship? its hard for the both of us..if one day we are getting back together for sure my feelings towards you wont be the same as before....because im hurt so bad now and beyond repair....please move on now dont ever come back to me ...
I'm having a really hard time not to contact you, and i'm thinking you'll never contact me either. I miss you so much it fysically hurts my inside..
I have hope that you'll realise that you made a mistake, but when will that be? If ever? Everyday i feel like you're moving one step forward, while i'm moving one step back..
oh i really understand you girl i really do...pain is like chocking on my own blood in the chest.....Quote:
Originally Posted by lifemess [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm not so strong today. But I'm strong enough to not contact you. I don't want to be rejected again. One of these days you'll find a note I wrote you or an email or open your closet and look at your favorite shirt (the one I bought you) and remember what we had. Then you'll call and want something to work out again. I'm ashamed at myself because at this point, I know I'd take you back. I know it wasn't prefect and I know there are some things that need to change but despite that I still want you. No one can figure you out or really why you're doing this. You act one way towards me then say something completely the opposite. What's going on? I'm not so strong today....
I was going through my digital picture frame which I turned off since we split up. I came across so many pictures of us together and my favorite picture from the first night we met. You are so beautiful.
I sent your things in the mail with a letter. I hope you find happiness.. I have done all I could.
There you go. I feel the same way towards my ex... but believe me, we're going to be just fine with those losers.Quote:
Originally Posted by confused&single [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wow i really want to send this video to you.... i made it for you! :(
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I will not call you...i won't. I don't care how much I want to or how much I think "maybe if we just talk" or "maybe if i bring it up" he'll want to get back together. Stop it...you will not call him. Lets be honest...the only reason you want to is because you saw that girl whom he claims he "is in no way attracted to" posting on his fb wall and apparently now her relationship status is hiden. I hate that I care still. But I will not call you. I repeat...i will not call you.
I think i'm starting to get over you. Talking to you the other day I started to realise how little I actually felt for you. You aren't attractive. You're arrogant. You're self-centred. You don't listen to other people. There's always somewhere you'd rather be. And to be honest mate, I think i'd rather be elsewhere than with you as well. I'm not moping around anymore. I'm out of your league and you're just a little boy who doesn't know what he wants. Well i'm off to live my life now. Do whatever the hell you please with yours :) And please stop texting me, it's getting old. Byeeeeee
I don't know what to say.... I can't be myself around you, because you're not you anymore. That closeness I treasured, the closeness you rarely share with anyone, the you that was secret except for a very few people, you no longer have with me. You speak to me as if I were an acquaintance. It hurts so much that you did this to us, that we weren't valuable enough to you to keep us intact, to keep me in your life like before. Don't you miss me? I don't hear you crying, I don't see you hugging a stuffed animal to pathetically make up for the missing warmth and touch of the person you love. You call our past "happy memories". So we're just memories now? Just two weeks after your break down? I know you probably don't mean it that way... But it's so hard. I get physically ill thinking that you might be intimate with another woman. Some nothing that you might share that special something with, our special intimacy.... All thrown away. Us. Gone. I'll hold out hope, but you're sure not making it easy in the meantime. I still call you my boyfriend when I talk to people. Partly because I want to avoid any questions, and partly because it comforts me. Even the sight of your shirt in my room or the necklace you gave me around my neck, which I have never taken off since you gave it to me.... It all hurts. I can't concentrate. And you keep speaking about a future meeting, a future time when I might see you. It seems pretty far off in the future, especially since you don't even CALL me. You text me sparingly... comment on my facebook page, and initially it comforts me, but then I realize... You had the time to do those things but not to say hi to me on the phone......... Is this it then? Are you calling it a "break" but it's really a break-up? Finished? I don't know... I don't think so because of all you said, but then...... You're pushing me away. How can we even build up our friendship when you won't even include me in your life? **** you.
So I noticed I think of you a lot when I wake up. I need to figure something out to fix this shit out.