Shaking hands...???

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Originally Posted by Venacava

Anyway, do whatever feels comfortable for you! If you're a hand shaker ; then go right ahead I say.

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Yeah, I'm going to keep on shaking hands, it's just 'me' and seems to be working. Like another poster said, what's the alternative? Stand back and wave?

It freaked me out a little though when several male friends thought it was creepy, that's why I posed the question. Maybe it is a little formal, but nothing wrong with injecting a hint of formality into a social setting.

One of my friends always kisses ladies hands. I think that's too much but he gets by with it as he's European with a heavy accent. Most women find him charming. I'd get slapped.

Eeew. Kissing hands? Pass the crackers, we've got someone just too cheezy here.

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Originally Posted by vashti

Don't do that. It doesn't send the message you are hoping for. Too soft of a grip sends the message that you are a wimp and lack confidence. A firm grip is nice and sends a message of warmth and confidence. Don't do the hand crusher thing, though.

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I disagree. Me shaking hands period with a female I think speaks of confidence. Too strong of a grip will have them thinking "Youch! Let go!" An easier grip may suggest that I'm a gentle guy.

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Originally Posted by blue toxin

I disagree. Me shaking hands period with a female I think speaks of confidence. Too strong of a grip will have them thinking "Youch! Let go!" An easier grip may suggest that I'm a gentle guy.

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I am guessing you aren't a girl, so you probably aren't aware of the impression you are making. Anyway, here is the scale:

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gentle ............................................. firm .......................................... death grip
wimpy ............................................. ideal.......................................... a$$hole

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Originally Posted by vashti

I am guessing you aren't a girl, so you probably aren't aware of the impression you are making. Anyway, here is the scale:

<--I--------------------------------------I-----------------------------------I--------->
gentle ............................................. firm .......................................... death grip
wimpy ............................................. ideal.......................................... a$$hole

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Yup....

A gentle handshake is an IMMEDIATE turnoff...a firm (not crushing) handshake, to me, indicates confidence...and confidence is sexy! Most guys don't get that a firm handshake can be gentle....... ::sighs::

Yes, we women don't want any part of you to be limp.

You guys make it sound like I'm just simply holding her hand and shaking it, that's not what I'm saying... Compared to how I shake any dude's hand, it is much different though.

I think shaking hands should be uniform, regardless of gender.

ya what if ur at a formal ball, should you kiss hand? lol i almost did that when i asked the girl i liked to dance at prom... although i left out the actual kissing part, just the bowing and reaching for hand

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Originally Posted by Off2College

ya what if ur at a formal ball, should you kiss hand? lol i almost did that when i asked the girl i liked to dance at prom... although i left out the actual kissing part, just the bowing and reaching for hand

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No, that's not cheezy. That's totally sweet and romantic.

I just think when you join a table of people at a bar, you shouldn't be kissing hands. The idea just makes me laugh.

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Originally Posted by BlackiesHD

One of my friends always kisses ladies hands. I think that's too much but he gets by with it as he's European with a heavy accent. Most women find him charming. I'd get slapped.

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:))) yup...it is very european...man here do that often, in fact if they don't do it, it is bad...:))
but usually, the young guys prefer shaking hands and a big smile...:)


and by the way, it is very sweet when a man kiss your hand, but doing this with practice and exercise, not to long (erotical meaning), not to short (he doesn't like you), not to pushed (he is rude), and he should hold your hand firm but not strong, and of course, a woman should give him her hand to kiss it, with 1 seconds before he touches her hand:))


i sugest you a nice firm, but gentlw shaking hands, a big smile, and a soft and worm voice.

I hate it when a person shakes your hand and they hold your hand for ages! :S

Yay for shaking hands. Definitely not too hard, though.

It is great for an initial meeting.