i have some good news and need to share

Care to elaborate, sombra?

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Originally Posted by PussyCatDoll [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

well that genius plan totally backfired. she insisted i don't know anything about him, i'm rushing, i shouldn't let it get in the way of my studies.

bf said i shouldn't dumb it down. they should see it for what it is and then they'll realize we're pretty serious.

anyway the dates set, so i should put this at the back of my mind till finals are done.

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You poor thing.

I went through something like that awhile back. My parents actually played an active role in destroying a relationship. When it ended I told them, if they ever not accept somebody I picked for myself again, they will encounter my wrath. Ever since then they've been very reserved about showing their objections or judgements. Letting me in on them only after relationships end.

You should always respect your parents, but I found as you grow older they should also respect your boundaires and your decisions in life. The moment they overstep it you have to be very clear about it with them.

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Originally Posted by PussyCatDoll [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

well that genius plan totally backfired. she insisted i don't know anything about him, i'm rushing, i shouldn't let it get in the way of my studies.

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Well, she's right about this^ part.

Your parents love you & want whats best for you. Try to remember than when you get angry w/them. They aren't doing these things to spite you (sounds like). Hope your visit goes well & will be the first of many.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My parents actually played an active role in destroying a relationship. When it ended I told them, if they ever not accept somebody I picked for myself again, they will encounter my wrath. Ever since then they've been very reserved about showing their objections or judgements. Letting me in on them only after relationships end.

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Mish, I don't know the specifics of what happened, but your parents probably do know you pretty well & may see things you don't (or can't). Loving parents find a way to be kind in their advice, however. But it might not hurt to get an honest assessment of a serious LTR from a trusted family member or friend, just to get an objective view from someone you know has your best interest at heart.

Don't piss in your own nest, in other words.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Mish, I don't know the specifics of what happened, but your parents probably do know you pretty well & may see things you don't (or can't). Loving parents find a way to be kind in their advice, however. But it might not hurt to get an honest assessment of a serious LTR from a trusted family member or friend, just to get an objective view from someone you know has your best interest at heart.

Don't piss in your own nest, in other words.

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I know what you're saying Indi

But at the time, their decision was less about honest assessment and more about their prejudice (based on certain, I'll call it politically incorrect views) and self interest (not wanting heirs of that particular "type")

I wouldn't dream of keeping someone around that my sisters didn't approve of. I trust them, and they know me. They want what is best for me.

I think relatives (unless they are certifiably crazy) generally have their loved one's best interests in mind. To deny that is true is a mark of immaturity, nine times out of ten.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I wouldn't dream of keeping someone around that my sisters didn't approve of. I trust them, and they know me. They want what is best for me.

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Same here.

Tho if any of my family had a problem w/someone I loved b/c of, say, racial prejudice that would piss me off.