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Having done something and leaving it in the past is one thing, doing something and then throwing it in your current partners face is another. SHE knows enough to not brag about her past. He's the one who hasn't been smart enough to figure that one out yet.Quote:
Originally Posted by NeoSeminole [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Uhm... she's an ex porn-star who gets upset with her fiance when she finds out just how much he has done with other women? LOL!!! Anyway, how about... tell him you don't like it? You haven't done the obvious step and that is COMMUNICATE, shouldn't be that hard to do since he treats you like a princess and this is your only problem/possible strain. If you tell him how you feel about it and he continues then you have a problem.
Also... I wouldn't want to sleep in the same bed he slept with various of women either. I'm a firm believer in changing the sheets, pillow cases and cleaning the mattress and pillows.
QueenofCorona says:
"Having done something and leaving it in the past is one thing, doing something and then throwing it in your current partners face is another. SHE knows enough to not brag about her past. He's the one who hasn't been smart enough to figure that one out yet."
the OP never said her fiance throws his sexual past in her face. All she told us is he doesn't "brag" about it.
Gigabitch says:
"They're engaged."
so? I'm sure the bed didn't start bothering her once they got engaged. Leave the guy's furniture out of this. It would be like her fiance saying, "I don't like the idea that you might have had sex on your couch. You should get rid of it and buy a new one."
Yeah. You said that. The difference is, if she's regaled him with stories about exactly what she's done on that couch, I could see why he would want her to get rid of it.
But she didn't say that he has done that. She put it in an example to describe how this situation is eating at her. Saying, "For example, I don't want to sleep in the same bed that he has slept on with other girls, I don't like to hear any story about things he has done with other girls, I couldn't even stand to listen to his "losing his virginity" story!....What is wrong with me!!?"
The OP said he was telling everyone on Facebook. How can that not be seen as possibly rubbing his past in her face?
He filled out a survey game. I don't think his intentions were, Yeahhhh this ought to make her squirm. He was sent the survey in his inbox just like she did. They both participated in the survey that was sent to their private inbox. She even admitted her jealousy is getting extreme. I agree that he shouldn't brag and boast about his previous sex life but she even admitted he hasn't bragged about it.
Why is he even telling her these stories? How would you like that, Coco, if your fiancee was always telling you about getting with some other girl? Even if she doesn't think he "brags", he's crossing a line.
I don't have a fiancee. But if I had a boyfriend or fiancee who constantly talked about their past sex-capades, bringing it up in random conversation, bragging and boasting... then no I wouldn't like it. But she has not made any reference to how often he brings it up. She says this, ONCE "I get really upset and even downright mad when my fiance talks or mentions his previous experiences with other women." There is more references to how she feels about how many partners he's had more than how often he brings it up.
I can't give my take on this without knowing how the topic came up.
I would never want to hear details of my fiance's sex life. I know a little bit about it, but not what he's done with who or anything.....that would bother me. Your man should have some respect and keep a lid on it.....he can keep that shit between him and his buddies.
Exactly. Can't really point the finger here when she hasn't even made any reference to the main subject. But she goes on and on about how jealous she is and how it bothers her about how many partners he's had even though she has had many herself. Dunce.Quote:
Originally Posted by LadieNisha4u2nv [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ah, I missed the part where she did the survey, too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Coco [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So ultimately she needs to set boundaries about what she shares as well, or else she's never going to be able to expect him to.
Seriously if this is just from that survey I think she's overreacting; and this is coming from a very jealous person.
Unless he brings it up randomnly and you tell him to stop but he continues, which I have a feeling is not the case here, then yes I feel you are overreacting.
I also think it's ridiculous that I would have to invest in a new bed just because I have a past of sexual encounters. The bed does not make the man. Whether a new bed is there or not, if he wants to ****, he will ****.
I really need a ton more info than what we've been provided because I can't call him an asshole just by assuming he just brings it up for no valid reason.