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Honestly before asking whether or not you should try and get back with her, ask your self this..can you really trust her again? and do you really sincerely love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her? If you want to try to work things out simply because of the way you guys felt about each other in the past...it's really not worth it. However if you really love her and think that you'll be able to work on your trust issues then give it a shot...good luck!
to tell you the truth , i really love this girl because we have lots in common and have shared lots of things, i find her amazing in everyway (except when shes mad...she has SOME anger issues) but what keeps me from trusting her is the fact that she lied to me many times , about various things and i just dont want to get hurt anymore by all these lies. I WANT to trust and to try to work it out ...but i cant get to it because of past events.
im leaning more on the let her go side now .Can feel the sadness coming soon.
If you think moving on is the best for both of you then that is what you should do, but make sure you won't regret not trying later on. Trust is a tough issue but something that can be worked on but she has to be willing to change herself too. Maybe she lied in the past..but try to look at it her way, could it just be that she didn't want you to get hurt..and thought that lying to you would be the better option? From talking to my friends i've learned that a lot of them lie to their boyfriend because they fear that they will react badly to the truth. Just sumthing to think about...
What's worse? Making a big mistake, or having big regrets?
yea , she lied to me about other guys hitting on her because she dint want me to fight . Shes never seen me fight but i dont understand why she wont let me ... i do train in boxing , everybody in HS is scared of me ( thats why nobody bothered to touch her, not even her arm :) ) Your probably right, she dint want to see me get hurt but then again , why would she lie about her going out with her friends and then ditching me . Her: ohh we went out , we had dinner ,and i dont want to talk to you no more .(suddenly)
me: Why??? whats wrong? did somebody bother you?
her:No...i just dont want to see you ... * i can hear laughter in the backround*
me: Ok...( in my head : weird and suspecious)
what was THAT??? im just very confused. this decision could change our lives forever.
red m&m ... blue m&m ... they all come out the same color at the end... :french:
well now even i'm confused...does she even want to work on things? cuz if she doesn't then i say just move on....
she's not sure either ...i think ill just let her go even tho i still love her and i know ill take some time to recover :( . but some time to myself should be good . I need to replan my life anyways.ex; college , work . Need some time to cool off and just enjoy life with some friends. ;)
Thanks for everything ... :)
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I would say let her go - and let her know you don't want anything to do with her until she can be 100% completely honest with you from now on. Put the ball in her court... if she wants to work on the relationship, she'll come to you. If not - then you know she wasn't worth it in the first place.
GREAT Tone ... my mind has been so much i a mess these last few days because of all this ( we've been arguing for the past 2 weeks now) that i havent thought about that . Thanks for the great advice and for putting interest ... keep it coming.
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Why would you want to work things out with someone you don't trust and you think is going "psycho" on you? These things usually are progressive...
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we broke up because we were both unhappy, i dint trust her and she was just going psycho with me and her family
Some girls just dont know the meaning of the word privacy.Once everybody else knows about your relationships, then what can you do? Its like being under a magnifying glass with thier freinds. Thier friends may as well tag along with you at that point on every date since they know everything already, right? lolQuote:
BTW the friend thing, yea , her friends always influenced her alot ,and they would talk about EVERYTHING (girls ...come on) so i dint want her friends knowing every single detail about our relationship
Trust takes two. Depending what broke the trust, there is no working it out.Quote:
Trust is a tough issue but something that can be worked on but she has to be willing to change herself too.
Most of what im reading sounds so much like me and my ex. Shes a bit psycho with me and her family, i cant trust her, even as a friend because of what she tells other people, and all the lies. I agree, call it quits, clean break, and as for hanging out with her, i wouldnt make a habit out of it. Personally, i wouldnt bother at all.