Boyfriend Doesn't buy me gifts

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If you'd rather have a different sort of guy, why don't you just go get one? There are plenty of guys out there that won't mind buying you flowers and don't care to go out drinking. Why are you spending such a great amount of energy and worry on a go-nowhere relationship? You are approaching the peak of your beauty; don't waste it on someone who isn't interested in the kind of lifestyle you want.

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It maybe unfair for the man though since he might want to buy her flower but thinks he may come out looking weak or he maybe thinking that she doesn't like that sort of thing. How about letting him know before breaking it off?

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

communication is the key. if you're not happy going out and drinking, then tell him that. he can't read your mind... unless you give him the finger or something.

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Pretty much sums up the answer to most of these types of questions.

You know what's funny? Women are forever going on about how men can't communicate. And yet when they want something they never come right out and say it. They sulk and get bitchy. If the guy asks what's wrong the girl says something stupid like, "If you don't know, I'm not telling you!" And then they go and screw some other dude and leave. WTF!?

Personally, Dollface, I think you should leave. You're seeing a guy who is happy to spend an incredible amount of time and money on you. Far more than the average guy would. Clearly you don't appreciate it. So let him find a woman who would be happy to be showered with all that attention.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You know what's funny? Women are forever going on about how men can't communicate. And yet when they want something they never come right out and say it. They sulk and get bitchy. If the guy asks what's wrong the girl says something stupid like, "If you don't know, I'm not telling you!" And then they go and screw some other dude and leave. WTF!?

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that's what happens when you date little girls gerbil.

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Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

that's what happens when you date little girls gerbil.

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Yes - this is the price you guys pay for wanting to date younger women. I keep telling you guys again and again to date older women who aren't afraid of asking for what we want. ;)

i made mikey buy me flowers once. i was sick and he was in new york. i told him to deliver me some flowers and make me happy or i'd go over and kick his ass.

later on i had TWO dozen roses in my house lol.

that's RIGHT!!!!

My husband is a good flower-giver. Unfortuantely for him, I am not a great flower-reciever. I mean, I *like* them, but I'd rather spend money on more practical things. I generally only want flowers when we are having dinner parties.

what kind girl appreciates drawings and hand-crafted jewelry? i need one of those.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what kind girl appreciates drawings and hand-crafted jewelry? i need one of those.

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The blind ones.

well when mine buys me gifts there usually so unexpected and expensive i feel embaressd taking them, as i know i won't be able to buy stuff that expensive.

i'm not a teddy bear person. why would you buy me teddy bears? i'm 19 and they have no use!!

flowers not really unless he's trying to be romantic with them.

i prefer things i'm actually gona want, use and need even if that means it's a pen.

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Originally Posted by Gribble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You know what's funny? Women are forever going on about how men can't communicate. And yet when they want something they never come right out and say it. They sulk and get bitchy. If the guy asks what's wrong the girl says something stupid like, "If you don't know, I'm not telling you!" And then they go and screw some other dude and leave. WTF!?

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I know!!! WTF!!!

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Originally Posted by LostNotFound [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

well when mine buys me gifts there usually so unexpected and expensive i feel embaressd taking them, as i know i won't be able to buy stuff that expensive.

i'm not a teddy bear person. why would you buy me teddy bears? i'm 19 and they have no use!!

flowers not really unless he's trying to be romantic with them.

i prefer things i'm actually gona want, use and need even if that means it's a pen.

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Yea, but gift is a gift. Like it or not the person meant well and doesn't deserve a bitter come back at him that it is the wrong gift. Some of you people are acting like little kids

"WHAAAA I DIDN'T WANT THIS WAAAAHHH.....IT IS THE WRONG COLOR! WAHH WAHH WAHH"
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enjoy these, they are great!

One more thing to the original thread starter, what was the last gift you got him?

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Originally Posted by LostNotFound [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i'm not a teddy bear person. why would you buy me teddy bears? i'm 19 and they have no use!!

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Yeah, isn't that creepy? Makes you wonder if they wish you were an eight-year-old. Eeew.

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Originally Posted by Kiechi [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The blind ones.

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jeeze. i hate women then.

the material life is boring and useless. just a waste in general.

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Originally Posted by dollface82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

instead of him taking me out for drinks, I'd rather he spend the $15 on some flowers.

is that such a f*cken crime?????

he makes me feel that way!

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haha gimme the 15 bucks and i'll buy a bottle of crown royal and we can "share" it. now wouldn't that be romantic??

raverboy

well, I saw him walking with a girl and his dog over thw wknd - he was meant to be away for work.

he said it was just a friend, as did she.

yeah right.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what kind girl appreciates drawings and hand-crafted jewelry? i need one of those.

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not..jewelry so much. but the guy i had a crush on for like..3 years was an artist and every christmas he'd draw me a picture. the drawings were always my favorite gifts.

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Originally Posted by Steve2004 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

not..jewelry so much. but the guy i had a crush on for like..3 years was an artist and every christmas he'd draw me a picture. the drawings were always my favorite gifts.

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alas there is hope for me. what kind of things did he draw for you?

no wonder he wasn't fussed about buying me things - think he has been cheating the whole time!

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

alas there is hope for me. what kind of things did he draw for you?

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he drew me a picture of a rose about two years ago. I have it hanging in my room. And he drew ME, except kinda made me look vampire-ish. It's scary but awesome. i had that next to my bed. annnd he drew me a faerie, cause i love faeries. but yea, i loved all of them. i love that kid. -sighs-

Considering how little you appreciate the time he spends with you, I can't say as I blame him. Your paranoid nature no doubt contributed to driving him away.

He was too old for you, anyway.

was never paranoid. He tells me he is away for the wknd, I believed it. Hence, my total shock seeing him back in town with another girl when he was meant to be away!!!!

He doesn't love you. It's time for you to accept it.

I reckon he's dodged a bullet.

I've accepted it. Just 2 weeks after he said he did love me, said he wanted a future.

First time relationship for me, maybe a bit niave to believe what he says.

He is just doing to you what he can get away with... at least until you stop letting him. Live and learn, my friend.

wow does it hurt though. First heartbreak.

here I was worrying about flowers when i should've really been worrying about whether he was tellign the truth.

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Originally Posted by dollface82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

wow does it hurt though. First heartbreak.

here I was worrying about flowers when i should've really been worrying about whether he was tellign the truth.

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finally... now don't go crying about your next bf not buying you things, there is so many other concepts that could be on your mind, why waste it on the materialistic things in life.

raverboy

The first time is the worst, but you will learn to be a better judge of character. It is one of the few advantages you get with aging.

I feel bad for her.

My little sister is going to be on a cruise on her birthday. I tried buying her a package thing so she could swim with the dolphins but they sold out :(

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Originally Posted by DoesntMatter [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My little sister is going to be on a cruise on her birthday. I tried buying her a package thing so she could swim with the dolphins but they sold out :(

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that's so sweet ): i can't even get my brother to call me.

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Originally Posted by dollface82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now - I'm 24, he's 33.

The whole time we have been toghether he has never bought me a gift/flowers or anything. But he does bring me out to restuarants etc for dinner 3 or more times a week and picks me up/drives me home and cooks dinner every now and again.

being a romantic girl, I'd love flowers every now and again.

Should I be concerned that he's never bought me anything?

I've kinda hinted out at the topic, to no avail.

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maybe he spends too much on the dates you are having that he doesnt have the money to buy you a decent gift,i mean for me,if i would buy something for a girlfriend,i would buy her something expensive and not settle for something mediocre for her taste for the reason that i dont want my gift to be laughed at.

Well, dollface, he wasn't the prince. He was just a minor character in the first chapter of your Book of Love. Call it a lesson learned.

And remember, the lesson is not that men aren't trustworthy, because that's not true. It's about having good judgement. That takes a long time. You'll probably have your feelings hurt again, but you'll learn something every time.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

And remember, the lesson is not that men aren't trustworthy, because that's not true. It's about having good judgement. That takes a long time. You'll probably have your feelings hurt again, but you'll learn something every time.

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You are one of the few people on this forum that is not running around with their head cut off. I admire you.

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You are one of the few people on this forum that is not running around with their head cut off. I admire you.

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Giga is old enough to know a thing or two. Its one of those age things.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well, dollface, he wasn't the prince. He was just a minor character in the first chapter of your Book of Love. Call it a lesson learned.

And remember, the lesson is not that men aren't trustworthy, because that's not true. It's about having good judgement. That takes a long time. You'll probably have your feelings hurt again, but you'll learn something every time.

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Pure wisdom with age? You can't buy this people.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Pure wisdom with age? You can't buy this people.

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Oh, hush up, Sarcasti-pants!

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Originally Posted by jurupa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Giga is old enough to know a thing or two. Its one of those age things.

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No. Wisdom is not a product of age, but a product of experiences.