how to know if a guy is being with you just for physical contacts?

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A guy who is interested in a meaningful relationship with the girl will be put off by this "friends only" as well. He may interpret that the girl is not interested to have a meaningful relationship with him because she doesn't see him in that way. He might go and look for meaningful relationship somewhere else since this girl is only interested to be friends and nothing else.

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Exactly..

"friends only"... means friends only.. it doesn't only mean "no sex".. it also means "no relationship".. and "i'm not interested in you, period"..

So, it does a horrible job is sperating the two.. all it does, Vash, is tell the guy.. "i'm not interested in having a relationship, nor sex, with you, but you're more than welcome to keep taking me places and getting me stuff; but if you lay a hand on me or dare to imply or explicitly call us a couple, that's the last you'll ever see of me again"

And naturally.. nobody wants to be that guy..

The way to tell if the guy wants sex-only, is through the conversation, and there's very little a girl can do to TEST for something like that.. she can only LISTEN for what's being asked.. for what the guy is digging to find out, if he's digging to find out more about HER as a person, because he's interested in her, as a person.. so it's just passive..

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That's true, but that is not what the original poster asked, mish.

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Yeh I know. It was more in reference to Alexander's post that telling a guy to let's just be friends may not work. It might negate him if he was honestly after the relationship.

To answer OP, I think a better idea might be to just tell the guy straight up that you're not ready for sex (or insert action here) until further down into relationship. My ex from last year told me that, she said it may happen further down the line or it may not, She wanted to know if I was okay with that and I told her I was. I patiently waited for her, I knew she just needed more time to be more comfortable with the idea. We spent more time building rapport and enjoying other forms of intimacy. She was ready 3 months into our relationship and then that also became part of our routine. It occurred naturally on its own, it was a nice compliment to what we already had. Not some big think I was secretly lying in wait for. We've had a lot of other passionate memorable moments before sex.

So, asking straight up works.

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Originally Posted by GrkScorp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

all it does, Vash, is tell the guy.. "i'm not interested in having a relationship, nor sex, with you, but you're more than welcome to keep taking me places and getting me stuff; but if you lay a hand on me or dare to imply or explicitly call us a couple, that's the last you'll ever see of me again"

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That is just silly. I think you are rather paranoid about how people perceive you without your wallet open. Won't females befriend you without you paying them off?