moving out theres a crapper load to do-dont discredit it yet...
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moving out theres a crapper load to do-dont discredit it yet...
Still doesn't make sense to me. I know when I have tons of shit to do I let myself relax and hang out while I can and worry about it after my leisure time is over. Alright, I won't discredit it yet, but it does take her down a couple notches in my book. :stuckup:
so you're saying that she was completely interested in you after chatting and seeing a pic of you? and then suddenly she seemed like she lost interest after she saw you in person? did you send her a pic that was like 10 years old or something? was the pic current? was it even you? if you've chatted and talked to her a lot you could have learned to get to know her more before you meet. i remember i talked to this one girl and i asked her to send me a picture of her (i met her through my cousin by phone and talked to her almost every nite) i never met her, she says she was fat but the sexy kind of fat. when i met her, it was NOT sexy!!! i mean ya i may be going for looks but i didn't want to. she was so cool on the phone and all that, but lying about being fat sexy is just wrong! maybe you mislead her to thinking that you were more than you actually were. but cheer up, if she's busy offer to help her move out or something productive. that's the point of my story.
She's already moved and done with. But no I was entirely honest. The pics I showed her I took while we were talking online. I just went into a well lit room and took them then came back and sent them so they were current and all. She actually did the same thing to me that your situation did. She told me she wasn't thin but wasn't fat, our mutual friend said she was thick. Thick = Zekk's favorite girl in the whole world. I saw her and could tell immediately....this was not thick. However I didn't matter to me. I liked her, liked her enough to see beyond that. I still haven't talked to her since, she was on last night and she messaged me a couple times while I wasn't around and I did the same thing and we never caught each other. So who knows.
did you ask her what's wrong? i mean you can be straight up with her since you have nothing to lose at the moment. just call or meet up with her or chat online and tell her things feel different. of course she's going to lie about it but at least you will know depending on what she says.
Panda what the hell is he gonna ask her? What are you dissing me? Id say leave it alone right now...I mean guys and gals differ when it comes to certain things.
Zekk do what you feel is right-I dont think shes dissing you at the moment. Give her a buzz in a day or so and ask her if she needs in any help or something-dont go ANY where near the "whats going on?" you just started talking and stuff-play it cool man.
You dont want to her to think youre already dissapointed in how things are-because what if theres nothing really going on and youre reading into it? Let her get settled. It takes us gals awhile to get the comfy zone again in her homes...at least she responded lastnight thats a good sign.
Not all is lost buddy...
Yeah, I thought it was a good sign that she actually wanted to message me. I agree and shall not attempt to communicate with her for the next few days. She is leaving for Guadalajara on the 8th, should I make contact with her before she leaves?
Definetly! You dont want her leaving thinking youre not interested anymore. Give her a call or AOL or whatever in the next day and keep it casual-and maybe before she leaves you can tell her have a great time and maybe we can get together when you get back...something of that nature...but let her leave on good thoughts about you and what the possibilities could be...cha ching!!!
Ring her bell Zekk-
Talkin to her right now actually, she still seems a little disinterested but she IS talking to me. I'll follow your advice. :stache:
what makes you think shes not interested? Is she being aloof? Are you having to hold the entire conversation? Give her open ended questions...not the yes or no things-keep things simple with her...good luck Zekk-
Yeah, she basically just answering with short little spurts and I had to lead the whole convo. She said she had to go and got offline and came back on like a minute later but isn't talking to me. I asked her open ended questions but she answered as quickly as possible and didn't ask anything back. What do you think now?
well hell-shes preoccupied with something-shes not giving you her undivided attention-but thats not a bad thing-she could be on AOL with like who knows how many other people-do you talk on the phone at all? If you could find a way to talk to her where shes not in a situation to be distracted you might get some lead way with her.
Ok Zekk-ask her to lunch before she leaves. Or coffee. Something during the day something friendly not so romantic...try that-
She's in Illinois. Besides she's always given me her undivided attention online before we met. I think it's just about to time let it go don't you think? Sounds pretty hopeless.
Illinois? .. but Im in Cali? ... j/k ..
you are so quick to give up... its not hopeless yet!
why dont you ask her?
have you tried that yet?
I thought I wasn't supposed to be like "what's going on" because we only met once, I shouldn't look too much into it. But I do like how I'm feeling the love with so many replies to my thread. :stache:
see? there's a reason why i told you to ask her what's going on. i don't ask her "wat the hell b***h?" i just mean ask her what's wrong in general. be there for her as a friend and offer her some advice or just a ear to listen. this type of drastic change in her appearance to you is definitely signs that something is wrong in her life. and it's none of your business what it is exactly but it IS affecting you. so give it a shot. ask her what's on her mind and be sarcastic and tell her that you're nosy. something like that. a guys point of view is useless but it does help to realize that guys are sensitive too. sorta... :goofy:Quote:
Originally Posted by Zekk_T_Strife
apparently Zekk has feelings for this chick. he needs to at least say something good before she's out of his life.Quote:
Originally Posted by squirrley
OF course he should-but in a nonchalant way-theyve only talked on line or on the phone-he cant act obsessed about it. Things may have changed with the situation-we dont know whats going on with her-we can only assume. I think he should feel the situation out-before she leaves...I suggested asking her out-
I didnt realize they were in seperate states. It makes it harder.
Zekk do what you what you feel in your heart. If you think its not going anywhere then bail-If you think shes just got a lot going on-then hang on for a little while and see- Its up to you-we were just trying to help buddy!
well panda.. I think your on the right track but i would tone it down... you can ask whats up with really asking whats up ya know?
If it was me, I would be like.. hey____ .. how are ya? (try and keep it simple). havent talked to you in awhile.. been busy?
little stuff.. ya know?
But I also agree with Squirrley... do what you feel is right in your heart, if you like her and really want to get to know her.. why not just say that?
Personally....I don't think it's anything going on in her life that's making her distant. I just think that after meeting me for the first time she had a change of heart and saw something she really didn't like in me. I've gotten over it though, we only hung out once and the rest was all online and over the phone. I really appreciate the help though, means a lot to see how this thread just kinda exploded with replies. :D
.. who loves ya baby! ;)
Zekk, honestly, I wouldn't take offense from it. Often people get this idea of what a person is like online, either physically, or personality wise, that rarely transfers over to real life. She may have just had this totally false 'fantasy' idea of what you were like (and we're not even talking looks), that was just unrealistic for you to live up to in person. I've met more than one person who I thought online would be cool to hang out with, but once they are in the same room with you, turn out to be a totally different person.
Of course there are always exceptions to the rule, some people turn out to be even better, cuter, and more fun to be around, in person than they are online....and you know who you are...... ;)
awww... wonder who your talking about! ;)
I'll never tell!!! :D
Ironliftr3 is right in a sense. there's there forum i visit often. it's basically for car enthusiasts. i've met tons of peeps online and they are awesome. when we get together for meets and such...i just want to wish i never met any of them in person. when i talk to these people in person like i do online, they just say, yup, nope, and smile. not like how they "talk" online. it's kinda disgusting to have a different personality online as they would offline. not everyone has this problem but a majority of people do. i could be one of these people too but it depends on who i talk to i guess. Zekk, how do you know she's not having problems? why do you think she's distant from you now after the initial meet-up? if you're already thinking to let go, you might as well should. but if there's still hope, hang in there...
Zekk-listen to your inner gut now...if you feel like this isnt going anywhere-then let go-You dont have anything invested at this point but gaining a friend. Youre not at a loss here...
I had zero experience with the online thing until Iron-so I didnt know what the hell to expect-but was pleasantly surprised at our connection...I couldnt give ANY advice on what to expect-other than its IMPOSSIBLE for a female to remain calm(ok me anyway)-I was so damn nervous...I couldve used a stiff drink that night. So maybe Irons right- you have certain expectations on both parts and things might or might not click by the time you ACTUALLY meet. But its not always a bad thing-you could end being really good friends...
I wish you luck with it all buddy...
I agree very much with Iron and I think that's what her problem was when we first met. She said something to the degree of "I didn't really know what to expect so..." which means she expected something, I wasn't it. But ya know it isn't too big of a deal anymore. I figure I'll casually chat with her over the summer if she wants to, when she gets back into town for next semester it'll be up to her to ask if I wanna hang out. I vested my interest in it and kept my promise to her, anything further is going to be on her. Either way things will still be good. :stache: