I like girls that are girly to a certain extent. Girls that are into clothes and paint their nails and like to look nice and smell nice. Not all these kinds of girls are vacuous stereotypes.
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I like girls that are girly to a certain extent. Girls that are into clothes and paint their nails and like to look nice and smell nice. Not all these kinds of girls are vacuous stereotypes.
I agree. It's the same for the playful men as well. I'm sure no one meant to portray that behavior as negative. I think the title of the thread may have been the major issue for some. We all have a playful side (hopefully) but we are all attracted to different type of playful. Lol, I'm repeating myself.
Really, I think this was just a question of "what does this behavior means" and in her eyes she probably is not attracted to it or wonder if he is acting in a brotherly/friendly way perhaps? I don't know and I wanted to get to that.
Okay, get back to me when you've been married for a decade.
:emot106: I'm sorry...huh?Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Its related to my post about good fathers. Like I said you won't appreciate it until you see its use. Too serious is no good either. Its about knowing when to relax & when to be serious.
:emot31: Again Wwhhhaaa?
Good fathers? Won’t appreciate until seen in use? Knowing when to relax & when to be serious?
I am not on that page. And what is with these MAJOR assumptions?
I am sure the OP is not looking for an uptight husband who won't be playful to his children.
Are we to be in the playful or serious mood right now?
As I say, its not something I expect you'll understand for a while. Just putting the thought out there. It will click eventually. Hopefully. Shrug.
:emot85: You’re a doodoo head, Indi! If I could I would reach through my monitor into yours and poke you in the eye. I babysat toddlers when I was younger!!!!!!!! Although, I am not a parent, I DO understand good parents and what good parents, especially good fathers do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I expect good fathers and especially father of my children to do the following:
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nn5jlrxcpkI"]YouTube - Russell Peters - Beating Your Kids[/ame]
And this:
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5PTkJ5g5PfM"]YouTube - Mother's Day: No Kids After 4 - Chick Comedy[/ame]
And this:
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUhPerpcxbU&feature=channel"]YouTube - Parenthood - Chick Comedy[/ame]
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All I can say, Lesa, is that I wouldn't let you watch my children.
Hopefully that was a playful response but I'm not sure hehe. It's just a playful tease but I suppose that's not going to work coming from me.Quote:
Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Anyway, I won't hurt your child. I promise. I would only have the father of my children do those things to his own children. :evil:
Everybody thinks they are good.
I meant it. My son is a handful. Too smart for his own good, and his parents much of the time.
My husband deals with his energy by playful wrestling & other 'boyish' things. I don't think a more stodgy sort of guy (and there are fathers like that, you must have met some) would be able to do this, is what I'm saying. The irritating behaviour sometimes spills into other areas, but one learns to have fun & appreciate it.
You don't want a rock for a BF as someone mentioned.
The immature guy stuff tends to mute anyway with age. I can't imagine what happens to guys who are so serious from the get-go. They end up like... ???
BOOBAA! Hello, darling. Your timing is impeccable!Quote:
Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
:D
Chill from what?! as i have said i am not complaining...just wonderingQuote:
Originally Posted by TheGreek [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And you say your like that with all your gal pals, when your comfortable...but in my scenario its just me pretty much.
If its just you, he likes you. That is all. I can't believe you graduated high school without learning this. Or have you?
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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I may not know much about children, but I can relate with the knowing when to relax and when to be serious around others. Having a fairly acute sense of how others feel around you can give you the cues you need to determine if the situation is tense or fairly relaxed. Sometimes you need to be serious with them... other times you realize they need encouragement to calm down (i.e. tension breaking jokes or words of encouragement). Part of this knowledge comes from experience and the other part from having an idea of what would prove most beneficial in a given scenario. It's an abstract and quite intuitive process... but I feel that it can be learned by most anyone with time and patience.
I wish I could explain it better... but I recognize it when I see it and I've received and put into play such intuitive hints myself.
Its empathy Dalia. And I think a person who can joke around a bit is way more likely to have it than someone who can't. Is that what you mean? I agree, if so.
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Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
He's a great guy, great personality, compassionate, and good looking....i just wondered about that 3rd grade stuff cause at first I didn't know what to think...I actually thought when it first starated that he was being a jerk...but as time went on I thought it was kinda funny after a while. Then I started noticing he does that stuff with me only.
With female friends, even the ones he's known for like 10+ years....the most I've ever seen him act like with them was friendly and talkative and maybe some jokes as well.
But yet he goes around kicking and poking me and I haven't eve knwn him that long.
To the OP... sometimes it's best to not overanalyze attraction... just let it happen on its own... follow your instincts (within reason). Sounds like this guy likes you, feels comfortable around you, and is for the most part, acting like a normal, playful guy.
^^^Sheep, I'm starting to think you are stupid like one. Can you read?Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You know he likes you. Now, do you like him also? You must be pretty b/c he's sure not after your brains.
There's that word I couldn't find earlier.. hah! Yes empathy... offers further understanding of those around you if you can 'put yourself in their shoes.' I have noticed that too... those without a sense of humor seem to be more self-absorbed. I guess having a sense of humor means you have to understand people a little better... perhaps from trial and error of what those around you find funny?Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My humour tends toward Monty Python and the cynical. I'm not sure I'm the best source for what is commonly funny. ;)
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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I actually didn't learn this...my exes and past dates...they were always uptight, snoooty men........which as you can tell never lasted long. This guy is actually the first one I've met who actuall does things like this, well other than my brother...but that's my brother
Boy you guys post fast!
Well, can we move on to your real issue then?
Do you like him back?
Which I asked pages and pages ago. :PQuote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
LOL i said yes right about 50 x up thereQuote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Okay, well sounds like your issue is all good for now?
No, her issue isn't resolved.
She just wanted to bitch about why men aren't like robots.
Way to accuse someone without even knowing the person...I didn't wanna "Bitch" about how men are like robots cause I don't even knwo what you mean by that statement.Quote:
Originally Posted by doppelgaenger [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
All I wanted to know is why some men or all or most men do that...that's about it...calm down...this is supposed to be a helpful site not a site to make people feel bad.
Some people do those things just to brighten your day. If they see that you may be expressing yourself as if you are sad, etc they may joke around with you to get you to smile.
Others do it because they like you and want to see your response. Your response to them will show whether you like them or not. Then they can go to the next step of asking you out, etc.
I am wondering whether you truly like him. When he does those things do you accept the behavior or do you kind of move away from him? The way you describe him makes it sound like you two are not really compatible. You may like him but the attraction doesn't sound very strong to me.
If someone called your acting as that of a 3rd-grader, would you take it as a general question or a complaint?Quote:
Originally Posted by sheepingly [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Go figure.
Yes! They all don't respect and hate women for being of female! Every single one of them!Quote:
Originally Posted by sheepingly [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Because they are men!
Evil, EVIL men!
It depends on when/what he does......most of the time though when he does something playful I giggle or blush or etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by lesa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No!
He does it only because he doesn't respect you as a woman.
Because he's a man with their 3rd grade behavior.
That's the only rational explanation!
who doesn't like a person who can poke fun at themselves and you. it's the best part of life, if it makes you laugh then it's all good, if it doesn't then you have a different sense of humour. i like both sarcastic and playful humour. my dad is the perfect example. imo it actually shows maturity ( that life is not that serious) and intelligence and my dad has got worse with age, he's much funnier now that he's semi retired than he ever was.
Always look on the bright side of death...