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men's size does not matter to be honest. I can get off with my pinky finger. What you gf's problem is, is that she likes to degrade you. Tease you. She may find it funny. With out realizing the damage she is doing. Girls are less insecure with the size of their pussy. its all about performance when it comes to girls. So you should just set her down tell her how it makes you feel and see if it helps any.
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Originally Posted by HouseMouse [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I doubt a girl would hold up well to comments like "damn this is a big pussy... damn this is a big pussy" or "do you start putting your undies on at the knees?" or "you're hanging lower than me"... Everyone gets insecure about their genitalia from time to time... however, when the one you love (and is suppose to love you in return) constantly jokes or makes comparisons... you will become very insecure.
With males being stereotyped as being more insecure about their manhood... this girl isn't 'accidentally' insulting him. She knows what she's doing --- she just doesn't care.
Either set her straight or get rid of her.
As a married man for ten years(my wife is the only partner that I have been with)..but I must say this insecurity is something that I have struggled with for years..My wife had an affair a few years ago and she confided to me that my lack of size was an issue.I know it seems like a trivial thing but for a guy,having a small penis is very difficult in that affects so many aspects of your relationships,especially confidence..I still love my wife but I must say I still feel insecure when we are intimate
people can often cover up insecurities about themselves by taunting others .. that is another perspective .. and wether this is true or whether she just wants to hurt you i dont know. but you can only find out by asking her why she always belittles you. Its not size that counts .. it really is sexual technique .... there are a lot of things you can do if you really want to increase your size though. there are pelvic muscle exercises, she can also do these exercises to 'shrink' herself if thats the right way to say it. dont mean to be so blunt but that might be why she thinks big is better (although i wouldnt advise saying that to her). but i would ask your girl what she likes in bed and what gets her going .. and there are so many techniques you can pick up ... read up on it even. simple things like kissing her all over ... showing her that her satisfaction is important to you .. holding hands while you do it ... etc etc.... there are thousands of tips out there ... but you would be best to ask her what she likes .. not all women like the same stuff obviously .. gud luck
thanks,its funny I think our relationship is almost reversal of what the stereotype roll that men and women are supposed to be. I feel much more comfortable with lovemaking when we are in tune with each other (foreplay,massage,etc)..where as she is much more into the "act" so to speak..but I agree that comunication is the key,and I need to do better job of helping her understand why I feel the way that I do about myself
I would say that to her next time you are down there. When she complains "you didn't have to say it twice!" just answer "I didn't, it was an echo!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Carl.
I guess that its true that she must know those are hurtful comments,but it really seems she is more interested in being honest rather than saying something untrue just to make me feel better.I guess I prefer the honesty but it still kinda stings when you hear someone that you love, tell you that it was better with someone else primarily for that reason
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Originally Posted by bud2075 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In regards to the OP, there is nothing wrong with honesty... but neither is there nothing wrong with tact. If she wants to be honest she can mention once that she noticed a difference with someone who was larger than you. After that... there really isn't any need to bring it up again... Rather, she should've spent more time working with you to improve the sexual experience than to remind you that a larger dick was better.
Why constantly remind you of something that is beyond your control? If a larger dick matters so much to her that she has to bring it up constantly... than it's no fault of yours. She needs to go out and find such a dick with a man attached --- NOT make you feel inadequate because she is so cavernous and desires a larger male.
Either way... she was wrong to repeatedly bring up an ex... and was wrong to repeatedly voice how small she thinks you are. There are plenty of women who are perfectly content with men smaller than this woman's apparent demands of a man. So once more... the fault does not lie with you.. but with her. If she needs a larger male, then she needs to stop wasting your time... and most of all, she needs to stop making you feel insecure, when it's apparent that she is larger than average for a female.
This is a HER problem... not a YOU problem...
wow,thanks alot that really did make feel alot better..I knew it was a good idea to to join this forum..I think I probably should have stated those things exactly,to her,before we got back together..but on the other hand it is never to late to do it
Well...most women swear size is not a big factor, but you hear them when there in a group of women...guess what....IT MATTERS...lol
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Originally Posted by abetterus [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You're right.. it does matter... too big hurts!
And no.. this isn't one of those times where pain equals pleasure...
thats true,now if I can convince my wife of that, I will be much more comfortable initiating rather than reacting(which can be somewhat awkward)
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Originally Posted by bud2075 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Have you thought to initiate more often? Perhaps it's not the size that's the problem... maybe she needs a full-on frontal assault... be caught by surprise?
Some women view larger dicks as being representative of being more 'adventuresome'. Maybe once she has the 'adventure' theme... she will realize that a larger dick isn't necessary to achieve the thrills?
It's worth a try... the worst that can happen is she thinks of you as a typical male.. and might even feel a bit more desired due to your initiative.
excellent point,duly noted..I will try to be a bit more aggresive in my approach,what the heck..and thanks