So what about personality, if there is one thing that I find really attracts me to a woman, it's a happy, radiant personality. No I'm not joking or trying to be fake, this is what turns me on. So how do you compliment them on that without giving the impression that you're trying to say 'You have a wonderful personality, but...
Never on the first date. Possibly not even the second. It comes across as being a tool and not sincere. When I tell a girl she looks good or whatever, believe me, she knows I mean it.Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
Hi all:
I've read the posts here so far. A lot of the discussion reveals the difficulties men and women have in communicating with each other. The kinds of compliments many women seem to want to hear sound too tame and dull to men, and those that many men would automatically think to say often sound too crude to women.
I recently went on a first date (the first romantic 'event' in over 14 years and the first formal date ever, and I'm 39!), and afterward a woman friend asked me what my date had been wearing, how was her hair done, etc. I could answer some of the questions, but some I couldn't. Partly this is because I was focusing on who my date was rather than how she looked, but partly because the things I noticed about her physically really were different from her dress.
Many guys simply don't notice what a woman is wearing. She could be wearing a ripped sweatshirt and old jeans or a fancy dress and have her hair all styled, and it doesn't matter to us. Yes, if she has a cute face and a nice physique, those are great, and if she has a warm, fun personality, that's awesome, but clothes don't make a bit of difference. If she likes dressing up, that's great because she should do what makes her feel comfy and attractive. But it's not a big thing to many (if not most) of us guys, and so to compliment a woman on this is more of a gift to her of something she wants but not an expression of what we really feel.
So how to give a compliment that will really express what a man feels yet will feel like a nice compliment to the woman? I want to make a woman feel good about herself, but to say that I really find her shoes attractive or her eyes beautiful feels insincere to me (because eyes aren't something I really focus on either).
I often can't express what I find attractive about a woman, I just know that I think she's pretty. So what would be flattering to say to her? "You're very beautiful." "I could just breathe your beauty in for a year." And when is acceptable to say it?
Of course, I'd also compliment her on many other aspects of her personality, style, skills, interests, etc., but I'm trying to figure out how to compliment her looks without being boorish or offensive.
Jeeps suck.
ROFL.. when did this thread reservice? Just so everyone "new" knows... this thread was written in jest.. Squirt and I discussed this stuff months ago.. it was supposed to be a joke. Anyhoo.. continue on.. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins
LOL man, I remember these...feels like forever ago (which it was lol)
What thread. I wasn't here. All I know is that jeeps suck. Why get an off-road car when there is paved roads everywere? ...useless vehicles...all SUVs are retarded. You want room ? get a Van...you want luxary? get a 4 door sedan...want speed ? get a sports car...want something useless and pointless that eats gas? get an SUV.Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
You want room? Get a U-Haul.
You want luxury? Get a yacht.
You want speed? Get an airplane.
You want something useless and pointless? Get a unicycle.
are you trying to give me a hard time because I happen to like Jeeps? Whatever.. speaking of useless... :lol:
Hey girly, where you been hiding?Quote:
Originally Posted by jane
man, read this thread when you're drinking.. it's crazy!
So, about what men should say to women, and what they shouldn't say.
these are intended for people who are dating right?
what about when guys use these same tools for girls they are not dating, and have no intention of dating?
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Originally Posted by LightOn
... under your bed... :evil: