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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I agree, it's cheerfull.
Yep, I disagree... feel free to disagree :PQuote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
What is the first thing a man notices about a woman?
Her physical appearance.
Good thing since mother nature has been fine tuning her physique for thousands of years.
Then how do you explain those people who 'fall in love' or are feeling attracted to someone else on msn, via txt messaging or via the phone (like date lines) without seeing eachother?Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
that's called a fantasy worldQuote:
Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I dunno, I know two couples who met that way and one of them is together for over 10 years, the other 3.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Its fantasy until they meet and learn whether brains match biology. Come on Ygg, you know this. Sexual compatibility is a large part immune system genetics.
Actualy, if I recall correctly: immune system genetics state that women are the ones who make the decission with which male they'll decide to mate, while men just follow their pecker and bang whatever becomes available.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Is that in any way incompatible with what I posted? LOL.
Okay, yes. Men don't care. Women choose according to dissimilar MHC genes. The more dissimilar, the greater sexual interest. How we do that by smell tho, I don't know. I think the issue w/the pill isn't the hormones per se, but that it messes up our sense of smell. That's just my hypothesis, btw, no data backing that up that I know of.
I have no children, but I'm a 29 year old woman that's been through some horrendous relationships, including a marriage. My issues centred around poor self-esteem of a different nature. Honestly, I had to learn from my mistakes.
My mother tried to intervene, and counsel, and give me advice. It pretty much went in one ear and out the other. I had to stop the cycle of being with emotionally abusive jerks when I was ready, when I had enough. Nothing anyone else said made a difference. I only saw their points years later, when I'd gotten out and come to terms with it myself.
Sorry, I think you need to let her make her own choices in this. You've said your piece. She's only going to learn through experience, which might be the hard way. I'm quite certain it's hard to watch your child suffer, but there's a point when you have to step back and let them battle life out on their own. You can be supportive, but you generally can't tell them what's right and wrong anymore....especially in relationships. They'll go their own way in the end, so don't waste your breath.
Thanks professor. ;)Quote:
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Yeah that sounds familiar.. I think that's about right.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Aren't the pheromones related to the smell?
I think it's important to realize that men aren't really in control there and that it's basically the woman who will accept or reject them. At least, that's how I understand that.
(how the hell did this get moved bellow your post?)
I thought YOU were the father??? I'm so confused. So is she your "adopted" daughter then?Quote:
Originally Posted by jtx09 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know why you are nervous. All you have to do is pick up a newspaper and see all these widowed men who are on trial for killing their wives. If you *are* her father, I can totally see why you are nervous.
If you are not her father, and her actual father called her a loser and kicked her out, now it doesn't really take a rocket scientist to see why she has baggage issues.
It's not the weight. Only if she is trying to date abercrombie models. There may be men in the world who turn their noses up at obese women, and yes 280 is a lot, but having a lil chub doesn't mean you can't find love if you are secure. I wish she was posting here, we'd rag on her to go get professional help for her low self-esteem and to stop filling the hole with donuts and penises.
Someday my prince will come...
If she is a he I called him mother hen.. ooops.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rollerderby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Now I am confused.
I re-read the OP, and I saw that there is no mention of gender for the OP. I guess we are speaking to mommy dearest, I don't know why I thought it was daddy. So confusing.
Besides all the other big red flags about this guy, one that sticks out for me is that he is already controlling who she talks to on facebook, and wanted her to delete posts, and put that she was engaged.
WHATT???? THA F*CK???
I know a lot of people are going to come on here and say that facebook doesn't hold any social sway, but I really disagree. People take facebook very seriously, and especially on relationship terms. I've seen people flip on each other for not putting or putting certain statuses on. It's a way to announce to the whole global world who you are committed to.
Gay, yes, I hate it, but very impactful. El Duderino from Canada will either try to control her based on her low self-esteem (prime target for control btw, is someone who craves love desperately, as your daughter seems to) or will run cuz she's got some poundage.
Maybe the fat is a blessing in disguise? Listen, OP, I have been seeing this hypnotherapist for some stuff, PM if you want his website, he deals with ppl who want to loose weight and quit smoking.
But, if you are el madre, you also have to take a look at your relationship with your daughter. You can't just "tell her" not to make the same mistakes as you. That's what kids do, repeat all the shit you wish you never did, unless YOU are able to break the cycle and not pass your bullshit down to them. Just saying, no judgement, but that's kind of the way it works. Kids don't listen, and the girl does not seem to have garnered a lot of wisdom at the age of 28 in dealing with men. Maybe buy her, "he's just not that into you?" sign her up for a yoga class? She needs something else to fill her up other than a man. But she also has to want it. You can't force this on her.
Go to Oprah. She'll know what to do.
Rollerderby, when I grow up, I want to be like you, so well versed.
I said pretty much the same thing, but I simply can't sugarcoat that stuff.
Not sure if this was mentioned. The guy will not update a photo. He only has one photo and it's a cropped photo with an ex. Did the daughter talk to him by telephone? I smell an impostor.
I have done some searching on this guy tonight. Came to find out that he is the president of a kids hockey team and found a recent photo of him on the website. However, he looks older than 30 years old...he looks more like 40. For him to be such a popular man, it's very weird to me that he can't post photos of his job or more recent photos. And what is even stranger is that a man that is dedicated to children it seems, would have young women on his myspace that he used to flirt with and his myspace being completely blank pretty much. I don't get it. My daughter has spoken to him on the phone. I think she just needs to be careful...something still seems off.
He could be some married guy just looking for some side action. Who knows? But alert your daughter. Eyes wide shut & all that.
Yeah, what's sad is that the girl is going off that one half cropped photo...
Also, if he is president of a kids hockey team, that almost certainly spells side bride.
Time to get the Pinkertons involved?
I also thought about that, that girl in his picture that is cropped out has been on his myspace for 3 years at least. It could have been someone he was married to and for him to still have that photo up there, is silly. He shouldn't wanna be reminded of the past, put a new pic up for my daughter, we know women do not wanna see a girl cropped out of our man's photo lol. Also found out that he still doesn't hang around women his own age, he hangs around a 40 year old girl who's a lesbian (nothing wrong with that cause I know and have gay friends and I don't judge) and she keeps calling him Erica as a joke and also saw her tease him about being gay. He reminds me of a man I used to know who was actually the sissy type, manic depressive and very controlling to his wife, and even hit her. Not saying this man is gonna turn out like that. But he is already controlling and the jealous type.
It just seems weird he can't get a woman from Canada and even more weird that a president of boys hockey team would be flirting with teenage women. He was 28 years old back then, the girl was 17 years old and the comments he left to her were just sick. He told he he would take her "london" virginity cause she was visiting London at the time. And he was leaving her naughty comments saying he would do her body good. Ugh! I knew a man that messed around with young women and ended up going to jail for it. I can't say he's this type of guy but the profile speaks for itself but at the same time, I do not wanna reay way too much into this. But you can't ignore the facts. He might turn out to be a decent guy, but he's still trying to control my daughter and rushing things with her and making like they are engaged, and that is just wrong.
This is the one thing that keeps on popping up in your posts. That he appears to be controlling and trying to rush things (which again is a form of control). The majority of controlling and abusive people will rush you into a relation, flashing a wedding ring in front of your nose after a week of dating or so and telling you they can't live without you anymore, you're THE one, their soulmate, all that kind of bullshit.Quote:
Originally Posted by jtx09 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And with people who are low on self esteem, that works like a charm of course. They're all ohhhhhh... pitter patter heartbeat romantic feelings etc... (fantasy)...
"Serious" relations start slow (as friends) and over time (talking months, even years here) develop into something stronger. (reality).
There is some wisdom in the saying: Love GROWS.
I think you get the gist if it.
EDIT: oh... and the: I'll stuff my wiener in your bunn, that's pretty much normal male talk. We all sorta do that in one form or another. Some milder, some harsh.. that typical 'alpha male' bullshit to impress women. Some are mild on it and talk about holding hands (the romantic type), others are going to eat you out (the macho type), etc.. It depends on her preferences what she responds to and her preferences aren't nesecarily yours.
Yeah she gets it.
It's her dunce of a daughter that doesn't.
I do. I also found out that this guy went away with these two girls and was drinking with them. They stayed at a Hilton Hotel, one of them mentioned getting an ultru sound done but I am not sure if she thought she was pregnant, she said it turned out to be an abdominal flu. And out of all the girls, she is deleted off his friends list. I don't think my daughter as read these comments and if she was to, I know it won't do any good so if she gets hurt by this man, at least I did try to warn her. But it's very disturbing that this man would go away with these young women and be drinking with them. It's all too weird.
Well.. no clue how to pound that in to your dunce of a daughters (as Fras so nicely words it, I would have said something else but it'll do) head.
Maybe she's one of those girls that has to learn the hard way and comes full of bruises crying at mommies door. Maybe take her to the local womans shelter and have her spend a few hours talking to the battered women there?
Well, it isn't like I would have told her so. We have had many fights before about the men she chooses to date and I am not gonna waste my time or breath with her this time. I am betting he deleted a lot of stuff on his myspace before adding my daughter to it. She can read what I see and she can confront him but he's gonna lie, with men, we know the drill. It's her life, she can screw it up if she wants to. I hate to be this way about my daughter but I know she's never gonna listen and she's 28 years old, she will just have to make her own mistakes and live with them. I do not believe he will move here from Canada for her. He has too much going for him and she's alread said she won't move again for another man. He's got her where he wants her so she's just gonna have to deal with his jealousy and controlling behavior.
Don't you have any other children?
Ones that aren't so dumb that you can focus your attention on?
I have a son who is 13 years old.
I don't like your attitude by the way.Quote:
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You get used to it.Quote:
Originally Posted by jtx09 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Okay, I am done here. Thanks for all the advice but I just found some dirt on him. He has messed around with younger women. And after they took a vacation with him, is when hell broke loose. So, I am gonna have a talk with my daughter again and if she doesn't slow down the relationship, that's it. I will not say a word. So at least I know this man has a record. Background checks are wonderful, and I knew my gut was right. I just hope my daughter doesn't have to learn the hard way, not at least in the way this young girl did. Thanks for advice!
Are you a private detective? You should compile everything you found in a file and hand it to your daughter. If she still doesn't see it she's hopeless.
definatley. Definatley. Definately!Quote:
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as true as that is, it cracked me upQuote:
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